How can an emotionally mentally and verbally abused alien wife get away from her mother-in-law?

Answer 1

Below is a page that lists domestic violence hotlines, shelters and resources by state. Click on your state to view those in your area: http://www.letswrap.com/usadv/ It would be a good idea to get some counseling on this situation; many shelters and religious organizations provide free or low cost counseling. I would strongly suggest this if you have children---your kids will be affected by her behavior, even when it's not directed at them. Children are impacted by the abuse they witness between two adults. The most important thing to realize is that emotional abuse, like physical abuse, can both escalate and fluctuate over time. Your mother in law will not change her behavior, even if a police complaint was filed against her. Is your husband abusive to you or does he tolerate what is going on? If he is unwilling to acknowledge the behavior, he is ennabling the situation. The best thing you can do for yourself is to have as little contact with her as possible--even if it means not going to holidays or events where she will be present. Stand your ground on this matter. Do not try to pacify your mother in law--an abusive person sees this as submission and it does nothing to stop their actions. Do not argue or fight with her, either. Keep the focus on being healthy--eat right, get enough sleep, realize that this is *her* issue, not yours, and that you are not obligated to be in her company if she chooses to act this way.