How can one play hard to get with someone when they are so obsessed with that person?

Answer 1

I have just bought a fantastic book called "The Rules", which is all about not only getting the man whom you are interested in to fall for you, but for him to realise that you are "the one". I have read it cover to cover, and have laughed and agreed to most of, but not all of what is said. I think at the end of the day, having been obsessed with a man who was not good for me, I have learnt a great deal. He took over my life and this was not only destructive to myself, but to all my friends who had to listen to my agony. You have to ask yourself whether he is interested in you as you are in him. Does he phone when he says he will? Is he reliable? Do you trust him? Does he lie to you? Don't drop everything if he asks you out for a date at short notice. Politely say no, that you are busy, but don't tell him why. He doesn't need to know why. All he needs to know is that you have a life outwith him. He will know then to give you more notice in future. Don't continually phone or text him. You are too busy out with your friends, or doing your hobbies anyway! Men like to chase. Let him. If he doesn't call you that often, or makes an effort to see you, then I am afraid that he just isn't that into you. For you to then shout "Next!" and move on. Hope some of this helps.