Well, you might be able two start by understanding two things: One, it was never personal, never about you. You were the target but there was never anything wrong with who you were or what you did. Two, No matter how horribly miserable it was for you as a chld, it was always worse for your father. He had demons clawing at him 24 hours a day. It was terrible that you had to witness and suffer the result of that, but the demons were his and his alone. No parent wants to hurt a child; the remorse can last a lifetime. You may find it helpful to seek counseling, either privately or in a peer support setting like Adult Children of Alcoholics. You can find information in the phone book. Good luck, I hope you're able to come to some kind of meeting ground and discover each other again. Talk to your local AA. They can help you out. =Answer= The above advice is excellent. My own father was an alcoholic and as young as I was I knew he couldn't help it. Sometimes he wouldn't drink for weeks and he was great to be around, but most of the time there was a lot of arguing between my parents and it reflected on me. However, not once did I hate my father and I was so glad I took that road because when I got older I had gone through so many hard knocks in life and could have well ended up an alcoholic if I hadn't been watching what I was doing. Alcoholism is a disease and it can run in families genetically. We all make mistakes and sometimes life is very hard on certain individuals so they turn to methods such as alcohol to help deaden the pain. In my many years on this earth I always see people who are alcoholics, into drugs or just grouchy as people that have been hurt many times can be jaded about life or simply extremely sad. I realized I had to look at my father as a man first and not just my father. Once I did this I began to understand him more. My father died at the age of 59 from a heart attack and I am so glad we mended our ways. I love and respect my father to this day and always have. Please take the time to meet with your father and see him as a person first and your father second. You are an adult now (and have made mistakes of your own) and should know how hard life can be on some people, so cut him a little slack. Make amends (even if he still is drinking) and don't expect any magical answers as to why he was so hard on you before, but accept him as he is. He could have changed for the better, or hasn't had the strength to climb out of the snake pit. Which ever way he is accept, learn to forgive and just give him a big hug. Hugs do magical things to others because this world is full of suspicion of others, busy lifestyles and by hugging someone it's warmth that goes through the body and tells that person that someone does care for them. I'm a hugger and I've been told many times that because I have hugged that person I made their day. If I forget to hug a certain person they will often come up and say, "Where is my hug?" Don't be afraid to let your feelings out and don't go there to fight or get answers, go there to forgive and say, "Dad, I love you." That can make all the difference in the world. I have this on my fridge: IF YOU CAN'T FORGIVE THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU THEN THEY CONTINUE TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE! Forgive, but remember. Meet him for short periods in neutral places. Keep your boundaries. Everyone has their good sides, but with the abusive history, don't imagine the abusive behavior will truly be gone. Perhaps you can focus on the good things that there are now in your lives, with boundaries, and enjoy the company.
Because he is insecure. It has nothing to do with the wife's actions. Or he simply wants to assert control over her. Again tho that's because of insecurity.
Because many alcoholics have very stressful lives (because of, or leading to, the alcoholism), many of the treatments for alcoholism involve dealing with and relieving stress.
Antigone is unmarried at the time of her death. She was engaged to Haemon, son of Creon. He committed suicide because he could not reconcile his belief that he should honor his father with his father's actions.
because why would you want to be with someone who is abusive towards you
Alcohol is classified as a depressant because it slows (depresses) the actions of and within the body. This confuses many people who think that its classification as a depressant means that alcohol makes people depressed, which it doesn't.
Because he's abusive.
No because they both differ in their own reasoning
Woman always try to give excuses in order to stay in an abusive relationship. If your in an abusive relationship then get out of one. It does not matter if you love them if they are hitting you they don't love you. There is no reason for a woman to stay in a abusive relationship. If they are abusive then they are blinded.
Because the whole thing is to do with abusive and if abusive is bad and against the law this should be too
Treatment of alcoholismhas two parts. The first step in the treatment of alcoholism, called detoxification, involves helping the person stop drinking and ridding his or her body of the harmful (toxic) effects of alcohol. Because.
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I wouldn't say that was abusive because you bit him first.
People can't leave them because the person who is abusive to you will not let you go anywhere.
It is impossible to have specific percentages of abusive relationships in Iowa because many victims will not report the abuse.
Because he is abusive. Partner abuse is a treatable sickness, but not always curable. Staying with an abusive partner does not help them to become a better person.
Because he's abusive.
People don't really get alcoholism because it isn't a disease, in spite of the common misperception. They become alcoholic as a result of a long series of bad choices.
i wouldn't want to say because all abusive relationships can happen to anyone no matter how old or young they are
Because they want your pity. This is suppose to make you feel guilty and stay with him.
if your girlfriend is getting abusive. then just end the relationship; because once a person starts to be abusive towards their significant other than they are not going to stop. It may be because she likes the feeling of power that she gets from hitting you or that she comes from an angry backround. Either way it is best to just stay away from her until she stops being abusive.
Yes, alcoholism is really a bad thing because it destroys your immune system. also it affect relationship with your family members & with your good friends. So, If you want to be happy then avoid alcoholism. & tell people, friends around you to stop it.
Because the abuser makes the victim feel like they are and will be nothing without them. Its all about brainwashing, and making the victim fell dependant upon the abuser. No one should EVER stay in an abusive relationship, not even for the kids. That is the worst mistake someone could make. Abuser prey on the weak minded, however no one has to be weak minded, they ust have to learn how to survive on their own, and surviving on your own is possible.
yes,mainley because he had an abusive father.
Because he loved her.Well because her mum was very abusive and Marshall didn't want to see her get hurt so he adopted her so she wouldn't have to live with abusive parents anymore
No, because if they are still being abusive, they see the world from another perspective. If you are expecting that this will happen or that you can convince someone that they are abusive, chances are that you won't see it happen. About all you can do is to call them on their behavior, saying how it makes you feel. A good book is Patricia Evan's The Abusive Relationship.