I felt relived as if god has given another girl the punishment given to me. Amen
Yes. You feel that it'd be better to not have known that he has cheated on you. By knowing what he has done, you feel heartbrokened. It's normal to feel how you feel after what you've been through.
Yes, some husbands do feel uncomfortable around their wives after affair because some husbands feel remorse and are ashamed of hurting their wife and do not always know what to do to gain their wife's trust back while other husbands may simply be frustrated and angry at their wife for catching them cheating. Communication is one of the most powerful tools a couple can have so both should be able to express their feelings without getting into an argument and try to save their marriage.
ANSWER: I think it depends on what kind of situation a couples are in. But one thing I know, most women who discovered their husband's infidelity will feel hurt, betrayed, and confused and I was one of these women's who felt this way when I discovered my ex love affair with the woman he met on a dating site. My world change and my children was hurt as well. Either way the married woman's life will never be the same anymore.
It varies from person to person, but cheating wives may feel hurt and pain during or after the affair itself, as well as when the affair is discovered by their partner. The realization of the consequences and impact of their actions can also bring about feelings of hurt and pain.
because they feel guilty about it.
flying is the corrrect spelling not "fling" which is fling as in having an affair!!
If you have sat down calmly with your husband (hard to do, but yelling and screaming will not fix the problem) and he is continuing to have the affair have his bags packed and sitting at the front door and tell him she can have him and you are filing for at least a separation! This is a shock to the husband when he knows you are not going to sit around moping and enabling this behavior from him. Statistics show that husbands that have affairs do not stay in the relationship long with the mistress and most never marry them and some husbands want to come back to their wives. You're stronger than you think and you need to let him see that side of you no matter how frightening the prospect of losing him may feel to you.
It just depends on the type of affair. You will face trust issues, insecurity, wonder why he did it, self hate, hate towards your husband, regret, endless questions and thoughts, and so on. You feel fear that your family is being torn apart and there is no coming back from this and feel confused about what you should do. Of course there will be heartache and you might feel miserable for a while. You might even feel guilty or like you pushes your husband to this point, but you must never feel like it is something you did. There id no excuse for cheating no matter how bad the relationship. If your spouse is unhappy he/she can be an adult and talk to you about the problems try to fix it or just leave. And remember if you feel like you want to retaliate by having a revenge affair DO NOT GIVE IN TO IT! It won't be worth it and you might end up feeling worse about yourself and the relationship. In the end you might face divorce and if you have children you will face the difficulty of explaining everything to them and feeling like they will suffer. That will be the hardest part if you have kids.
You would probably feel sad.
Maybe but not really. I has to do with the way you are and the way he/she asks after the affair.
betrayed and a fool
You should not of been having an affair in the first place. If you really loved your spouses you would not have begun the affair, nor would you feel the need to get over one.