How do you balance your need for emotional connection with the need for autonomy in a relationship?

Answer 1

my husband and I have come full circle100% he ment everything to me and broke my heart and spirit I loved him with passion and hated him with just as much passion i needed him to love me make me happy and I blamed him for my misery then we divorced and I became responsible for my life my feelings and emotions I learned how to take my own advise how to make me happy what made me feel safe. My security is my own as is my opinion I love him like I love the morning, a good book, my own company... I love my kids in a very different way... and I love myself more than that. I will never love anything like in the beginning more than life itself more than my next breath or than when they walk out the front door it is too much responsibility and doomed to failure even i can't live up to that our time together and apart is blissful we have separate interest and needs when we are together we are still on our honeymoon this has lasted three years it took me 20 years in recovery to become a butterfly or autonomous as you said