This service can work as a conventional wedding or, with minor alterations, be used as a Unity Ceremony. I get lovely responses from the couples and the guests. Rev. Karen Buchholz First Spiritualist Church of Terre Haute Opening Prayer: Let us form a Circle of Love in our hearts, and begin with a moment of prayer, Heavenly Father, let us connect our hearts and souls with You and each other, Let us bring to this Circle of Love a sense of Respect and Joy in our celebration of this special day for <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, and bring into our hearts the presence of those who could not be with us in this time and space. Even as we have asked, so may it be. Amen Charge to the Community Love is the eternal and divine force of life; the mirror in which we may see the infinite expressions of God. Love is the power that allows us to face fear, challenges and uncertainty with courage and faith. We call upon God's Love to bless this gathering, and to shine in our hearts as <GROOM> and <BRIDE> affirm their love for one-another. We come together not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize, as a community of love, a bond that already exists. This marriage is this couple's expression of the many varieties of love. It is our responsibility as a community of family and friends to support <GROOM> and <BRIDE> as they take their vow of unity. We live in a world of joy and fear. We search for meaning and strength in seeming disorder. We discover our truest selves when we rely on each other through Love in all its magnitude. A Charge to the Couple: <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, in presenting yourselves here today to be joined in holy union, you perform an act of faith. This faith can grow and mature and endure, but only if you both determine to make it so. A lasting and growing love is never guaranteed by any ceremony. The foundation of your union must be the love you have for each other, not just at this moment, but for all the days ahead. Cherish the hopes and dreams that you each have which has brought you here today. Resolve that your love will never be blotted out by the commonplace, shaken by fears, nor obscured by the ordinary in life. The Challenge of Loving Let us all remember: Giving of yourself in love is difficult. You must give of your love without total submission of yourself, and yet without conditions. Therefore, in your giving, give your joy, your sadness, your interest, your understanding, your knowledge and all expressions that make up life. But in this giving, remember to preserve yourself, your integrity, your individuality. This is the challenge of love within marriage. What is Your Intent? I welcome those who are married among us to join hands with their partners, and remember your commitment as <GROOM> and <BRIDE> proclaim theirs. <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, take and hold one-another's right hands. (*at this point, couple is facing minister). <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, do you come before this gathering to proclaim your love and devotion for one another? Do you promise to affirm, respect, and care for one-another during times of joy and hardship? Do you commit yourself to share your feelings of happiness and sadness? Do you pledge to remain faithful? If so, answer: I Do. The Vows of Marriage <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, please join both hands and face one-another. <GROOM>, please repeat after me. I commit my life to our marriage. I promise to comfort you, and to encourage you throughout your life. I promise to share my thoughts and feelings with you openly and lovingly. I promise to listen to you in your times of joy and sorrow. <BRIDE>, I love you. You are my closest friend. Will you let me share my life and all that I am with you? <BRIDE>, if this is your wish, answer: I will <BRIDE>: I will. <BRIDE>, please repeat after me: I commit my life to our marriage. I promise to comfort you, and to encourage you throughout your life. I promise to share my thoughts and feelings with you openly and lovingly. I promise to listen to you in your times of joy and sorrow. <GROOM>, I love you. You are my closest friend. Will you let me share my life and all that I am with you? ME: <GROOM>, if this is your wish, answer: I will <GROOM>: I will. Ring Blessing ME: May I have your rings, please? The circle is the symbol of holiness. It is the symbol of unending love. These rings are a symbol of unity, in which your two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. As often as either of you looks at your rings, I hope that you will remember that they symbolize the commitment you made today to love and support each other. Ring Exchange <GROOM>, please place this ring on <BRIDE>'s finger and repeat after me: I give you this ring, as a symbol of my eternal commitment to love, honor and respect you. <BRIDE>, please place this ring on <GROOM>'S finger and repeat after me: I give you this ring, as a symbol of my eternal commitment to love, honor and respect you. Blessing of the Community This is a moment of celebration. Let it also be a moment of dedication. The world does a good job of reminding us how fragile we are. Individuals are fragile; relationships are fragile too. Every marriage needs the nurturing support of friends and family. On this wedding day, and from here forward, it is our duty not to be friends of <GROOM> or <BRIDE>, but friends of them together, friends of their partnership. In the moment of silence that follows, I ask each of you, in your own way, to offer a silent prayer or blessing, upon this wedding, and make your vow to support this couple. (A Moment of Silence) So as we have asked these blessings, so may they come to be. Amen. Blessing of the Union Out of this tangled world two souls have come together, drawn by mutual love and respect. May their days and years yet unborn deepen the joy of their choice and make it abidingly true. May the glow of your Love help brighten the face of the Earth. May God's Love touch and bless you and grace your lives with wisdom, courage, joy, peace and love. Pronouncement <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, having heard your intent, and having seen the love that abides between you, it is my great joy and honor to pronounce that you are, in the eyes of God and State, Husband and Wife. <GROOM> and <BRIDE>, you may seal your commitment of marriage with a kiss. <KISS> Ladies and Gentlemen, I give to you Mr. & MRS. <GROOM'S NAME>. Go in peace, with love, light, and joy in your hearts.