How do you deal with a boyfriend who keeps his apartment private from you won't let you stay there without him and won't let you answer his phone?

Why beat around the bush? Be up front and ask him these questions. If you have a good and solid relationship, along with good communication, he shouldn't mind a discussion with you about it.

This fellow is hiding something from you. It's obvious!If he can not or will not answer any of your above mentioned questions, this is not a relationship. Why would you call him your "boyfriend"? He is being very evasive with you. What kind of a double life is he leading? You need to find out fast. Don't put this off. Just deal with this and confront him immediately! Get real with yourself. This is Weird.