How do you deal with a friend's husband's death?

Answer 1

It takes time...a lot of time. Know that it's ok to cry, it's ok to grieve and it's ok to hurt. It's all natural and even though it doesn't feel like it at first, that deep hole you feel is left inside you, it will get better. It takes time as I said but you will find that the eventually the sadness will turn into warm memories that make you smile through your tears. It will get better eventually. Believe that.

Answer 2

• One of the most difficult grieving processes is that of losing a child at any age. The process is normal and may take a few years to get over, but each year that passes the intense pain will lessen, but the heart never totally heals. The best way to try and cope with the death of a child is to either work with grieving children or, perhaps with education start your own place and call it after the child's name. In British Columbia, Canada Terry Fox ran miles for cancer, but unfortunately passed away. His mother worked with the dream her son Terry had by keeping busy raising money for cancer. Although she missed her son every single day and the hole in her heart never mended completely she had a sense of joy in keeping his memory alive. Go through the grief and then you will know when it is time to take some action.

Answer 3

• Having just lost my own husband April 27, 2011 I can honestly say that losing a husband is in some ways worse than losing one's parents to death. You shared years with that person; had a pattern of living together along with many wonderful memories. Grief is a lonely path the person grieving must take. Unless a friend knows the pain of losing a mate they cannot relate to how you are feeling and may expect you, after several months to 'get on with it' and keep up to their pace. Nicely tell them that you are going through emotions of grief at your own pace and learn to say no if you do not feel like going out with another couple or be in mixed company for awhile as that will come in time. The love of your life has gone and grieving is a part of life and you owe no one an explanation. There is no rush to make decisions; no rush to give his clothing away or give certain possessions of his to family or friends until you feel you can part with them. It is far better to flow with the grief and talk to good close friends openly and honestly and then seek grief counseling so the wife feels less alone. The first year will be the hardest because of special events you shared together and there will be more crying (a good thing because it means you loved that person and tears help relieve the tension of the body.') Keep good friends close to you that can listen to how you feel and let you lean on them for awhile. It takes approximately one to three months before a wife is able to go to grief counseling, but she should go because counselors are trained (some having experienced the same loss) and you get to meet other women in your own position making you feel less alone. If you feel up to it go to a different place with a girlfriend for lunch rather than a place you and your husband went too and do not be too hard on yourself if you are not the fun person or have a cry because grieving simply is not fun. If you just want to sit home on the occasional day in your bath robe and slippers then read an up-lifting book or watch a fun movie; try to get out for at least a walk with a girlfriend in a peaceful setting as it will make you feel somewhat better. Take baby steps and a day to day attitude. You will never stop truly grieving for your husband, but, in time the grief will not be so intense and you can get on with your life and hold the memories of your dear husband close to your heart always.

Answer 4

We suggest that both you and your friend attend some group therapy. See the link below for more information. A hospice organization hear you should be able to poit you in the right direction.

Answer 5

Time. You don't just snap your finger and have it done with.