How do you deal with a man who is a momma's boy who you only see once a week?

Answer 1

If this man's mother is sick then I, myself detest the term "momma's boy." My mother was a bad diabetic and between my brother and I when we were out socializing or even on holidays we'd call her to be sure everything was OK. We did this long before we were married. She raised us, loved us, looking after us when WE WERE ILL and we loved her enough to care. No big deal unless some others make it a big deal! When my brother and I got married, his wife would snort and call him a "momma's boy" for phoning our mom and he looked at her and said, "I even think you must have a mother?" Of course he was being sarcastic and indeed she did have a mother. Today, her mother is 85 years old in another part of British Columbia in a nursing home and my brother's wife has admitted she wished she had been closer to her mom and now SHE phones her mother every single day in that nursing home! My brother and I don't comment to her about it because we're just glad she grew up! If a guy is over 20 and at home and not attending college of night school, then he should be out on his own and more independent. That's an entirely different story. If a young man or even an older man just has a "mother from hell" who is very dominant then I doubt you are going to change things. The best you can do is communicate your feelings and then listen to what he has to say. Sometimes even mothers who become widows rely on their sons for awhile. By communicating you may find out more about how this man feels and perhaps understand more. If he's just loafing around his mother's house or he can't make decisions without her then it's time to look for the type of man you want to be with. There are many things I like in a man ... he is respectful to his family (if they are deserving of it), he likes children and animals and is kind to the elderly. That's not asking too much!