Remember the abuser always wants to maintain control. The only safe way for you to demand he/she get help is to move out and have absolutley no contact with him. They have to be very uncomfortable at the thought they may have lost you for good in order to motivate any desire in seeking help. You must not contact him and he will know you are serious. If you stay he/she will only resort to different methods of control.
Never submit! Just leave their asses!
Get into batterer counseling (even if its verbal/ emotional abuse) ASAP (NO Anger Management - that does NOTHING for abusers)
If someone is verbally abusive to their family than the family can seek counciling for theirself and the abuser. Other alturnitive is to kick the abuser out of the house. If they are under 18 than the parents could talk to the school councelor about their behavior at school and they may recommend help.
Verbal Model - When you solve a problem, it may help you write a verbal model. Use symbols for operations, and use words to label necessary information.This is right out of a 7th grade math book.
The only way to stop domestic violence is to GET OUT of the relationship with an abusive person ASAP! With help, you can do it, no matter how long you've been stuck in the relationship. And, never let an abuser blame you for his/her violent outbursts or verbal abuse. The abusers are the ones with the problem, not the victims, and there's nothing, and I repeat, nothing that you (an intimate partner) can do to reform the abuser. You can do it, no matter what obstacles and hardships you face.For advice and help leaving an abusive relationship, contact The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.http://www.ncadv.org/Anonymous and Confidential Help Line 24/7: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
If someone is abusing you over the phone then the first thing you can do is ask them to stop the abuse. If they will not stop the abuse then you can warn them you will stop the call. If that will stop the abuse then disconnect the abuser and tell your supervisor who was the person who was abusing you. In responsible companies some supervisors will ring the abuser to find out why they were abusing you and what will be done to those people if the abuse happens again
NCADV-Face to Face is the place for help 1120 Lincoln St, Denver, CO - (303) 839-1852
Take them to a instituion or take them to a shrink
It has happened many times before and will probably happen many more times: a person abuses his/her partner then turns around and apologizes, asking to be taken back, promising to be a changed person. In general DO NOT TAKE THEM BACK. This is a classic psychological pattern of behavior and unless the person has received professional help, chances are (s)he has not changed. God bless. Most abusers are serial abusers - they repeat the same behavior patterns in all their intimate relationships.
Any help is better then none. If the person is ready to admit that they have a problem with anger it will help, but until they are ready to admit there is a problem, they will never get any better. Even if they are not ready to admit there is a problem counseling may help them get to that point. Just keep in mind you can't force anyone to do what he or she doesn
Not to scream it, but definitely let them know
The best thing that family can do for a substance abuser is stage an intervention. Once that intervention has been staged, present the abuser with the opportunity to go to rehab.