How do you get a man who does not like to discuss issues to talk comfortably about them?
Try to find a couple's communication class that emphasizes empowering couples. We took a good one based on the book by Sherod and Phyllis Miller, called Talking and Listening Together. They have some good ideas that are practical in real life. They emphasize asking the partner to set a time aside for a talk about a specific topic and provide a way to structure the talk so that it can be productive. Blaming or shaming the other person is not at all part of the process. For me and my partner, we found that Saturday mornings were a great time to tackle tough subjects. The more practice, the more comfortable you get.