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How do you know if your partner is more narcissistic or borderline?
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You don't know! Narcissism, an excessive, love and admiration of oneself, often a regression to an infantile state, is a character trait that can easily misinterpreted. To some degree all of us are narcissistic. Self-love comes before Other-love as we grow up. Some of us never reach the stage of Other-love. Sometimes narcissism in an adult is no more than the fear of Other-love. Teach your partner, by telling him/her what to do. Maybe he/she is shy. Intimate relationships sometimes open up repressed feeling. Talk about it. Talk about feelings. You'll be surprised how you can ease things. Read more about "Private realities" in Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters." === ===
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Are gay people aroused by their own bodies?
No, not normally. If they are arroused by their own bodies, they are narcissistic (but straight people can also be narcissists). Gays are no more likely than heterosexuals to be narcissistic. They want a partner to make love with just as heterosexuals do.
How do you ask women friends that you know reasonably well if they have ever dealt with narcissistic partners without startling them because you yourself do not seem the type to have this problem?
Friends can be wonderful when you know what you need to do and need support. However, I found that neither friends nor family knew anything about what was going on with my ex or how to deal with it. Also, it is good to leave reputations intact when dealing with a person who will remain in the community. So find a counselor who is well-versed in this area to gather information and to plan your actions. I would recomend that you talk to a counselor. Friends are great, but you want to be careful; especially at the start of a friendship. Also, a counselor will be much more qualified to help you find the answers you need. It is also usually easier and feels safer to talk to a stranger. After all, you do not have to worry about what they will think of you afterwards. Plus, you are not going to shock a counselor. They hear it all and hopefully understand most of it! I hope this answer helps. If you need help dealing with your own narcissistic problems, or feel you have narcissistic tendencies, then maybe you should consult a more qualified person. Your friends can be a good starting place, especially because you probably want their support. Yet, if you do have a serious problem and need to deal with it, your friends probably won't be able to help you as much as a counselor, for example. So, your best bet is to try and consult a more professional or even unbiased source (someone not your friend) and go from there. Eventually, if you do find you have a problem, you may tell your friends for their support. Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
If you know of someone that has been a party of abuse by proxy should the party be told he's an abuser?
I'm afraid I don't understand what you're asking. Unfortunately, many people are abused and nothing happens. On the other side of the story, many people THINK it's abuse when it isn't. I'm afraid you'd have to be a little more specific. Yes!!! Please!!! Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
What mental illnesses display sociopath tendencies?
* Antisocial personality disorder - Psychopaths/sociopaths * Narcissistic personality disorder * Histrionic personality disorder * Schizoid personality disorder * Borderline personality disorder These all have some of the symptoms of sociopaths, there may be more but these are the ones that I currently know of. This is a good reference site: http://www.crescentlife.com/disorders/personality_disorders.htm
Why is an abuser mad at you years after you dumped him?
An abuser may still be mad years after being dumped because they feel a loss of power and control over the relationship. They may also resent being rejected and hold onto feelings of anger and resentment. It's important to continue to prioritize your own safety and well-being in such situations.
How can you help someone to understand that the more you resolve to not let the abuser get to you the worse the problem gets as the abuser will just become more and more intimidating until you submit?
Abusers are a crafty lot and usually keep their abusive behavior behind closed doors because they know they won't get away with it out in society. The victim is caught up in their web and an abuser can beat the heck out of a woman in a heartbeat, then a few hours to a day later come home with a dozen red roses and pledge to their victim "they will never do it again." They always do! I have nicknamed the abuser relationship with the victim "the rapture" because that is indeed what it is. You may not understand how this person can put up with it, but then again, you aren't there when the abuser works his magic. Until this person has had enough and decides to deal with the reality of it all there is not a thing you can do. You sound like a fine person, so all you can do is be there when this person faces reality and needs help. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
Why does my ex narcisstic partner treat new girlfriend better and more loving?
Narcissistic wear a mask to fool the new partner,they do this so the person will think he or she is too good to be true they have met their dream man or woman,9 times out of 10 it is to good to be true....remember,he did the same thing with "You".
Can an abuser be accountable for his actions and change his ways?
Yes, they are accountable for their actions. It is possible for them to change, but they need to go through professional help. And if they have a partner that is going to go through it with them, they will need counseling also. Both will need individual and couples counseling. They should be held accountable.. to the maximum. My daughter is the administrator of a domestic violence shelter. I totally agree with her response to the "change his ways" query. (A question that is asked by 99% of domestic violence survivors). "You can take the animal out of the jungle but you can't take the jungle out of the animal." Once an abuser ALWAYS an abuser. Abusers are fully accountable for their actions because they know right from wrong and do nmot act on an irresistible impulse. It depends greatly on the particular mental illness. Bprderline personality disorder persons usually do not take accountability for their actions and feel a sense of entitlment. It is advise in the professional psychological community to leave the relationship and break all ties because of the prasinign and devaluing phases someone like this goes through the abuse is more likely to get worse upon returning especially with the high cases of denial found among those with BDP. I advise all women & men dealing with someone with BDP to just get out! Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
What are reasons for going steady?
so you and your partner can build more tust and honesty and be able to get to know more and more about eachother
If you have a narcissistic parent could you end up in a narcissistic relationship?
If you've been exposed to narcissistic abuse in childhood, you're more likely to end up with narcissistic partners if you haven't worked through your abuse. Adult Children of Narcissists (ACONs) have a number of issues to resolve.
How do you untangle your finances from a narcissistic business partner?
You go to court usually. It is never all that simple. If he perceives you to be the more powerful, use it. For example, the narcissistic business guy I knew would rather die than have his reputation (as he perceives it) ruined in our business community. So he would cave when that was threatened by someone "above him". If you have the weaker hand, expect to lose something or go to court.
How do you know if your partner enjoys sex?
When your partner comes back for more. Also when they moan, smile, and act like they are in pain during an orgasm, you will know. you will know if your partner enjoys sex when you have orgasms and when you kiss each other really hard. also when you move around constantly while your having sex.
