How do you tell your mom your bisexual?

Answer 1

The first thing you should decide is whether or not to tell your parents you are gay. While being gay is nothing to be ashamed about, young people who are dependent on their parents should consider whether or not telling their parents is safe. If your parents have exhibited homophobic behavior, you should consider not telling them.

However, if it is extremely important to you to tell your parents even though they have behaved in a bigoted fashion toward gay people, you should speak with your school's counselor about this, so you have the support of an adult that can help you if your parents become abusive or refuse to continue providing you with support. If your school is too small to have a full time counselor, Speak with your Doctor/clinic for advice. They do more than treat people who are ill. Or call around to therapists in your area and explain your situation. Many therapists will provide this service free of charge in order to ensure a teenager's safety. You can also try to find a chapter of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. They can help both you and your parents. (A web link is attached!).

The advise above is intended to protect teenagers who face a rough situation by telling their parents that they are gay. However, usually teenagers are surprised at how accepting and supportive their parents will be. In most cases, the parents already knew that their child is gay or had very strong suspicions. While it is good to take precautions, if your parents have not shown themselves to be hateful and bigoted or religious and judgmental, then you will most likely be fine by simply telling them at a time and place of your choosing that you find safe. Don't be afraid to choose a time and place that only has one parent. It may be easier for you to tell one of them at a time.

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If your Father becomes intolerable, threatening or violent towards you then remove yourself from the house and give him time to think and adjust his whole concept on this issue. Most fathers will come round to being understanding and accepting these days, but equally importantly you need to understand why they feel this way in the first place;

In days gone by when homosexuality was still a mystery to most straight people, and gays alike, it wasn't seen as respectable to be gay or have a gay son or daughter, and parents, especially Dads, would be anti-gay, homophobic, and outspoken about it, out of fear they may be ridiculed by their friends or society in general if it was seen that their child was gay, this more than any other reason. Sons that were effeminate in nature, whether or not the were gay, would be sent of for so called hardening up in the forces or down the coalmines for example. Dads thought it would man them up. People didn't generally talk about homosexuality, it would be one of those subjects to avoid, like taboo.

Some parents still have this old attitude and guilt today but it is a lot less and getting lesser all the time.

Not that long ago it was a crime to be gay and you could be imprisoned if caught ! Mind you, It was there and happening but in fear behind closed doors and in secret. The law couldn't stop it, but it put fear into peoples lives. Thankfully, those days are gone in most Countries and societies have become more liberal. We have come round to understanding more about this subject. We have learnt that it is not a choice made by the individual and not something the parents have cause for blame either. It is now generally believed that some people are born to be gay or bisexual just as others are born to be straight. There is nothing that can be done to change this in any case.

Parents do not need to feel any guilt that their child is gay anymore. The mythical pressure has released it's grip and families can enjoy being normal whether or not they are straight, gay or bisexual. Society has begun to ignore a persons sexuality, religion, race or gender and become more tolerant than ever before. They are realizing that it makes no difference what or who you are, we all have a part to play in this World.

Answer 2

Just sit her down and say to her, "Mom, I love you so much and I have to tell you something. I'm gay. I know you still will love me even if it is confusing, but I can't help who I am and I am quite sure." Then give her a hug.

Answer 3

* Going about and telling your mom your bisexual is a difficult thing to do. It really all depends on your family background. Are they religious? Are they anti-gay? Are they Supportive? Do you still live with them/your mom? Age can be a definite barrier on how comfortable you will be. (Not to put you down: but are you sure you are bisexual? have you experimented? Or is it just you have a strong urge toward the same sex? I am not saying experimenting is the only way to know, but it helps.) So think of all these factors, and if your so confident in who you are, I'm sure you will find the right time and tell her.

* To tell your mom make sure you really are. Go to Google and take the bisexual quiz first of all. After that tell her she needs to not freak and to stay calm. If she's anything like my mom, she would love you no matter what.

Answer 4

Just tell it to her straight up, if things get ugly have the car waiting outside for a speedy gettaway.

If you're bad with confrontations write a letter to her explaining your feelings and that nothing could ever change the way that you love you mom.

Answer 5

The first thing you should do is plan out any reaction she might have. If you know that she's accepting of people who are gay/bi, then you can tell her any time, if your mother is homophobic, I'd recomend waiting until you're a bit older (17/18). No matter what happens, she'll have to accept you sooner or later, so don't be too afraid.

Answer 6

If you think it's time, you just tell her. Most parents already know even if they don't want to accept it. How she reacts depends on her and your relationship with her. Most parents get over it once they realize this is who you are. It's your life and you should live it as you see fit and in the way that gives you the best chance of being happy.

Answer 7

Just tell her, if you think you have to. Your mom is an adult and knows about gay people.

Also consider whether you really have to tell your mom. Maybe it should be your birth dad that tells her, if it's that important. If he's not a big part of her life, then maybe he shouldn't.

Your birth dad being gay doesn't mean anything about you. You will grow up straight or gay because of who you are, not because of your dad. Gay people don't have gay children. Most gay children come from straight couples, straight moms and dads. It's not inherited.

Answer 8

do i tell them if i have a mental disorder or i have no future

Answer 9

say, hey mum i am a homosexual, like it or leave it, then walk away