How should I convince my mom if I'm Hindu in love with a Christian and your married sister approves and your mother won't approve if your sister doesn't?

Answer 1

become christian

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Apparently your mother values your sister's opinion. What is your sister's objection? Perhaps she has more doubts about your boy friend's personality or behavior rather than his religion. Does she see something in him that you might be overlooking because of your emotional involvement? You might try talking with your sister, listening to her point of view and then explaining your feelings to her. Then you may be able to bring your mother into the conversation with better understanding of her point of view.

You have not mentioned your boy friend's family. You would be wise to get to know them, too, and to bring their opinions into consideration.

B: actually my sis noe this guy personally and she don have any prob with his behaviour or anything else her problem is his religion some more his parents asked me to convert as a catholic. My father passed away when i was only 4 and my mother brought up two of us (alone). None of our relatives are in good contact with us. My sis is a traditional Hindu and she always followed my mothers advice in her life (from education to her marriage). But my mother always let me choose my path and may b bcz of that I am little more bold than my sister. But she always want me to live like her and make our mother happy which makes sense but this was an unexpected affair and some more this is a two year long relationship. None of us can forget and even my mother is okay with that. The matter of differant religion is my sisters main problem

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You have not mentioned your own religious feelings or those of your boyfriend. How do YOU feel about this religious matter? Changing from Hindu to Roman Catholic is a huge change. The Hindu faith (in my understanding) is quite tolerant and accepting of a wide variety of religious views, even incorporating many different forms and expressions of deity. Christianity, and Roman Catholicism in particular, is very EXclusive, condemning other religious traditions and forbidding any recognition of, much less worship of, any god but the Christian Father / Son / Holy Spirit.

A large percentage of Christians, including strict Roman Catholics, insist that anyone outside Christianity is doomed to eternal damnation. How do you feel about leaving your Hindu past and joining a religion that would consider your sister and mother to be eternally lost? Would your new husband's family expect you to persuade your sister and mother to convert to Roman Catholicism? Or would they expect you to break all ties and no longer associate with your Hindu family? What about your children? Would your Hindu mother be part of your Roman Catholic children's lives?

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I don have much ideas abt Christianity but since I luv him im ready to do anything and believe anything i believe in Hinduism bt for him i can be a christian...but my main prob is his family...they believed i wnt be ready to change and so they askd me to change wen i tld them im ready to change they gt shocked and nw they are quite abt this. they are not saying yes or no for our relation. My boy firend is very much committed to his family. But if im able to convince my mom then im sure i cn convince his parents also. Bcz his family think im so childish so if i have my mom's support then everything will b fine

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hi frndz pls help me to talke a rit decision...nw my problem is getting even worse. my sister talked to my boyfriend and asked him to leave me forever nw my boyfried is a bit scared and don dare to move forward he is asking me whether he is hurting my mom, i tried to convince him bt he is really scared. wat shd i do? i cnt forget him im ready to do anything

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From everything you have said so far, it seems that both your family and your boyfriend's family are strong influences in your relationship. It also seems clear that your boyfriend is more attached to his family than he is to you. What I am about to say may sound harsh, but it is true: considering all the stress coming from both families, this is not a good time for you to marry this man. Although you clearly believe in the strength of your love, it is important to understand that the pressures you feel from both families would not vanish once you were married. Those pressures would only become worse.

My honest belief is that you need to give yourself some time to become a little more mature. Become a strong woman in yourself, so that you have your own confidence and power. You can never do that if you put yourself in the middle of a stressful relationship with in-laws who do not like or appreciate you, much less love you for who you are. Please believe me when I say that hostile in-laws make it very, very difficult to have a successful marriage. It would be far better to face heartbreak now, while you are a single young woman, than to face heartbreak after entering into a marriage that is unlikely to lead to happiness. Go back to school, make new friends, build a life that is your own. Learn more about your own religious traditions and what they mean in your life. Then you will be able to have relationships in which you have your own power.

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Thnk you