How should you prepare for sex the first time?

Answer 1

I guess the answer depends on whether you're a boy or a girl. Because if you're a boy it's a lot easier. I put some advice down below for girls too.

For a guy, Learn how to use a condom, and be sure to bring one. Probably half of the sex session should just be spent making out, because girls need some time and tender loving care... it's a emotional experience for them.

It's also sweet to be holding each other and kissing while you're having sex, so your first time position should probably be face to face, with either the guy on top or the woman straddling the guy.

Don't shove the penis in unless she likes that kind of thing, wiggle it around and work it in slowly, and especially take your time if she's also a virgin. Make sure it's really "wet" before you try to go in all the way.

You might want to look at some explicit images or material to get an idea of what goes on, though you should take that with a grain of salt (because they're paid actors, and are asked to do lots of weird stuff). Askjoline.com is a nice place to find free stuff - turn on popup blocker and "open in new tab" for secondary sites.

If you've masturbated before, it feels close to that except it's hotter, it takes longer, and it's the friction that makes you orgasm (so shorter strokes means longer sex). There's also cuddling, being close to her, the kissing, and warmth. Her beautiful eyes and flowing hair, the boobs.

If you haven't masturbated before, it would be really sweet to have your first experience with your girlfriend. But otherwise you should probably get to know yourself better before you do something as important, and life changing as having sex... learn to walk before you try to run.

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For girls getting ready for their first time... as a guy my advice mostly comes from my own experience and women I've talked to.

You should be excited, happy that you're going to "do it"... you're giving your virginity away and it's something you'll always remember. Maybe it wont be the best experience - but it only gets better... a lifetime of sex awaits you.

If you get butterflies... psyche yourself up like you're going on a ride at the amusement park, be confident, it does feel good. Because being nervous or scared will drown out the experience. As a girl, a lot of it is in your own mind. It amplifies things and allows things like orgasms to happen.

I've heard that it gives you tingles and goosebumps all over, it makes the breasts sensitive, you get a pulsing sensation, waves of pleasure, and your body convulses like it does sometimes when you're stretching. It affects your whole body, not just your groin. It makes you want to hold him, bury him in deeper.

When the penis goes in there's a lot of pressure, but it feels good - like putting candy in your skin, and with every thrust you can feel all the edges and angles, and it feels like rubbing and moving, and it feels like electricity.

Ask him to be gentle, and take his time, and be "sweet" to you. Bring some extra lubrication, or use your own saliva, and put it all over his penis. If you use a condom, don't put the lube on until after the condom is put on (and his penis should probably be pretty dry too, that way the condom is less likely to fall off).

Make sure you're laying down in a comfy position. You should relax, "open" yourself up. If you're tense or trying to resist him it'll make it hurt or be uncomfortable. And you can't push it out either.

Your first time might be uncomfortable anyway... because you're putting something in there and nothing has ever been in there before... and because he might have to break the hymen (but it's nothing as bad as an ear piercing though). And penises are big too, not like fingers.

If you're on top you can control the "rate of descent", but you'll have to do the work... in which case the more work you put into the better it'll feel.

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And most of all, know that you want it before you ask for it, or let him do it. Because guys usually feel hurt or let down if you want to stop. And for the reasons listed above too, if you try to go through with it and you don't want to... it will reduce the pleasure and make you dry or tense - like pouring a bunch of water in soda before you drink it.

I guess that goes for guys too, though I guess if you're nervous or scared you might not get stiff in the first place. Sometimes even guys who think about sex a lot will get nervous or choke up when presented with the real thing, so don't be hard on yourselves. It may just mean you need more kissing and foreplay.

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You should probably also look into using Birth Control (pills, patch, shot, etc). That way if you want to have sex in the shower, or out at the lake, or in his back seat, you wont have problems with going "oh ok just this once".

If you're using pills, just make sure you take one every day, no exceptions. I.e. if you're going somewhere for a few days, take the case with you. Treat it like it's really important, because it messes things up royally even if you miss just one day.

The pill is also alot more effective than condoms, and if the condom messes up you have backup. But condoms also give a layer of protection against STD's (in case you don' t know if you're partner is safe or not).

It also reduces the mess of his ejaculate coming out all over the place because it catches the fluid (because it will spill out, either right there, or some other time later on). I know as a girl you probably don't want goopieness in your panties.

Answer 2

Honestly? Relax,, enjoy it.

If you get worked up over it and get real nervous, it doesnt help, atall. Dont have sex because you feel you 'have to' to fit in,, i waited until i was 19 (late from where i come from :P ) and i had a blast,, a friend of mine lost his at 14 with a girl twice his height up a tree...

But yeah,, take your time with it, make sure your comfortable with the girl your planning on having your first time with - little foreplay here and there and see that your both enjoying eachother's company.

Take your time, make it worth your energy ;P

Good Luck!