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- No woman would want to be compared to their spouse's affair partner. When a spouse does this they are getting even for having to stay with their spouse. It hurts and cuts deeply when the cheating spouse makes comments about how much better their affair partner was. Take control and let your spouse know immediately you are not going to put up with their childish behavior and if their affair partner is so great then tell him/her (no matter how hard it is for you) that you will file for divorce as you deserve better.
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It will be a pleasure to answer this question because it did happened to me personally. When I discovered my husband's affair, I had found out that his not only admired this woman but he fell in love with her. And that is why he compared me to his "friend" aka mistress. The day he compared me to her was the day that I know, no matter how much we wanted to rebuild the relationship it will not work with me anymore. I will not be the second choice after his affair..
What else can I help you with?
Should you marry your affair partner?
ANSWER:This depends on your feelings. If you think you can't live without him or her, then that is the sign of true love and he or she never felt towards his or her spouse. If you feel stronger with this question, make sure that your affair partner is legally divorce, or else lots of people will get hurt..
How will you feel if your spouse emotional affair leads to a separation?
You would probably feel sad.
Will you ever feel that security and peace that you once had from your spouse after his affair?
Maybe but not really. I has to do with the way you are and the way he/she asks after the affair.
You feel guilty about having an affair should you stop?
You wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't already feel there was something problematic about what's occurring. When you invest most of your focus and energies into an affair, you put other things on the shelf--your spouse/partner and your children (if any). By seeking a emotional escape with a lover, you're turning away from reality, which includes the reasons you're unsatisfied in your current life. What is missing from your life that you feel is met by the affair and your affair partner? The problems that were in your life before the affair started haven't gone away, it's just easier to ignore them when you're on the emotional 'high' that an affair creates. When that high fades for either you or your lover you'll be back to square one. You (personally) still will not be satisfied with your life. The problem with an affair is that both lovers live in a bubble--never planning on the major fallout that would occur if the affair was found out. Would you leave your spouse/partner for your lover? Would they leave their current partner for you? Can you accept that you will be seen as untrustworthy, based on your secrets and deceits? Will you be OK with being gossiped about, and possibly having your children exposed to it? Are you prepared for the possibility being asked by your spouse to leave your home and your family? What do want out of your marriage/relationship? If you want to stay with your spouse/partner, you need to focus on that relationship by ending the affair now. If you no longer want to be in you current relationship, you need to do the most integral thing for everyone concerned--notify your spouse/partner that you are ending the relationship. It is then up to you and your affair partner to decide if you have anything worth pursuing in real life.
Does the male spouse generally refuse to admit to his affair even when the other spouse caught him?
Yes, the male spouse will often refuse to admit he has been cheating on his wife because they feel guilty and even while having the affair they feel it is wrong so they will lie no matter how much evidence is against them.
Why are some wives struggling with self doubt and self esteem after spouse affair?
it can leave a feeling of inadequacy. If a person is with some one and they still cheat on them, it makes the other person feel as if they are lacking and are therefore at fault for their spouse going out and cheating. They may feel if they were prettier, smarter, sexier, etc. that they could have somehow prevented this. Fact is if a person is going to cheat or if that is just part of their character, there isn't much that can be done to stop it.
Can someone return to a healthy relationship after the spouse had affair?
Definatly, it depends on the affair and how far the affair made, if the person is willing to take the person back and how they feel. It really just depends on the couple and if they are willing to try again.
How sorry is your cheating spouse after the affair?
* As to how sorry the cheating spouse is depends on the individual who cheated. Some men make a mistake once and feel guilty and heartbroken when they realize how they have hurt their spouse or children; other men feel no remorse for cheating and are just sorry they got caught.
Is it right to use faith and religion to have an affair?
Would you be ok if your significant other/spouse/partner used a similar excuse to have an affair? Before you say that your religion/faith makes it easy only for you - remember that any word can be twisted to mean what you want it to mean and if you can play it one way so can your partner. BTW I am not saying don't go for it - merely saying is this something that you would feel ok with if you were at the receiving end? When in doubt don't do it.
Is separation after your spouse has had an affair be good for your marriage?
Yes, often times a separation is a good thing when one spouse has had an affair. It gives each spouse a chance to stand back and reflect on how they feel and if they really love their spouse or whether to move on from the marriage. Once a spouse has cheated it is difficult to earn the trust back from the other spouse. Perhaps put a few months limit on the separation and then meet to discuss how both of you feel about each other. The quote, 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' may apply in this case. Sometimes spouses don't know how lucky they are and how much they love their spouse until they are no longer there.
Is texting someone other than your spouse an affair?
There is no reason a person can't text the opposite sex as friends, but, if it turns into flirting or even making a date with that person then it is cheating on your spouse whether you have sexual contact or not. An affair is when you yearn for something; get together by sneaking around behind your spouse's back and it leads to a sexual relationship. If there is nothing going on then texting the opposite sex shouldn't be a secret and you should be able to speak to your spouse about it if you feel the need and if you don't feel this way you are following a very risky road and you are kidding yourself that you want more out of the person you are texting.
What is the right of a man living with his partner knowing that she is having an affair?
Common-law marriage is much the same as a marriage so you should see a lawyer and if you feel you have had enough of your mate having an affair file with the lawyer to have her removed from the residence.
