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If a marriage are in trouble husband have affair why is the wife the first to be blame?
Mgodat
Honestly I can't say. All I can tell you is that usually the man is looking for something he was missing in the marriage. I don't necessarily mean it was the wife's fault or anything but in my opinion that's what I would think.
The husand is just looking for someone else to take the blame for his bad behavior. If he was unhappy in his marriage, he should have sought counseling or a Divorce lawyer . The wife should not take the blame if she has been honest and faithful to her husband.
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Could you have pushed your husband to have an affair with a married woman?
If you're asking yourself whether you could have pushed your husband to have an affair with a married woman, the answer is "no." You simply do not have that power. Instead, it was a series of poor choices your husband made that most likely led to the affair. For instance, he decided to look outside the marriage for something he apparently needed. He decided to have an affair. He decided to ignore the marital vows of both your marriage, and those of the married couple's wife whom he had an affair with. So in short, don't blame yourself for your husband's behavior. He's not a child, and you are not responsible for his actions. That said, marital discord is very rarely, if ever, a single sided occurrence. Both parties are responsible for the maintenance of the marriage.
Can you ever trust your unfaithful husband after his affair?
Trust is earned and your husband broke that bond of trust so he is going to have to earn it back. Both of you should seek marriage counseling to get to the root of why your husband thought he should cheat and the counselor can give tools for the couple to work with and strengthen their marriage. A marriage counselor is not there to blame either party, but to get you both to see the weak spots in your marriage and work on them. No, you will probably not trust your husband for cheating for awhile because trust is earned.
Husband had an affair should you tell her husband?
Only you can decide what you wish to do with that but remember it takes two to decide on having the affair in the first place so she is not the only one to blame they both are equally to blame. I realize you may be hurting and also wish to do the same to someone else and realistically most people would tell her husband but that is something only you can decide for yourself just as you are going to have to decide if your able to forgive and try to work out your marriage or let go and move on.
How do you tell your husband girlfriend's employer about their affair?
You do not tell your husband's girlfriend's employer anything. The employer is a businessman and is not interested in the private affairs of his employees unless it interferes with their work performance. It should be your husband you are going after and if you feel the relationship is over then file for divorce. Your husband is the one that started this affair because he either provoked the affair or he could have said 'no' if she suggested having an affair with him. Put the blame where it belongs ... your husband!
What do you say to the person your husband is having an emotional affair with?
Take what you said to your husband (because, you know, he's not without blame for this, either), and modify it as you see fit.
Could you set aside the pain your husband gave you from his affair for the sake of your young children?
Each individual woman is different when it comes to forgiving her husband for having an affair and it is a personal decision by that woman. Once that bond of trust is broken it is difficult for the wife to trust her husband and generally that mistrust turns into questioning the husband if he should be late coming home to where he is going and eventually some men will simply leave the marriage on that basis. Not only that, but the wife feels demeaned or sometimes unattractive because she can subconsciously feel she is unattractive or her husband wouldn't have found it necessary to have an affair. Of course is most cases this is not true and the husband would cheat no matter how attractive his wife is. If your husband has had more than one affair before it is more than likely he will have another one. If this is the first affair he has had then humans make mistakes and it is worth trying to resolve problems in your marriage by seeking out a good marriage counselor, but only if your husband is willing. If your husband refuses to get marriage counseling or does not want to give up the woman he has had the affair with or feels threatened by you to walk away from the affair then no, it is not wise to stay in such an unsettled and toxic marriage for the sake of the children. If you and your husband decide to dissolve the marriage then try to do it on a friendly basis for the sake of the children as children often blame themselves for their parents divorcing. Make sure you try to appear to be friends in front of the children and agree that your husband pays child support and has joint custody of his children so the children can have both parents in their lives. If you do not want to be quite so drastic as to apply for divorce you could try separating for awhile to see if you and your husband cannot work things out, but be sure the children get to see him or even stay with this father on weekends and some holidays.
Can a husband claim sexual harassment with his wife's company if she and her coworker was having an affair?
No, just go after the person that is in the affair with the wife... you can get him for Breaking up your marriage in some states, I would check it out... ( But remember it takes two for a affair to happen, so who is really to blame , him or her??)... BUT you had better have Positive proof its happening, also is he married, if so talk to his wife... You can get him fired (and her) if you talk to their Boss about what is happening at the work place. Good Luck
Why can't we blame the spouse from their affair instead of the other woman?
You should be able to blame your spouse fully, since he/she allgedly cheated on you, whether the person they had the affair with realized it or not.
Why do we blame the other woman when its our husbands who pursue and start it all?
You are wise by asking the question, "Why do women blame the other woman when it is the husband who pursues and starts it all.' Too many women are so jealous over the 'other women' they forget that their husband has started the affair and it is the husband they should be going after and not the other woman. It's a turf war ... single women or even married women that start an affair with another woman's husband is heads up for a real war. The husband sits idly by and secretly I do believe that most men who have affairs on their wives enjoy two women fighting over him. Smart women have it out with the husband and do not bother with the other woman.
How can you deal with the painful images of your husbands affair?
When a husband has an affair on his wife it is normal to find it ugly; humiliating and that you are angry because you once trusted your husband and he broke that bond of trust. It leaves you feeling betrayed and mistrustful of him. No one forgets traumas in their life, but, in time the most painful part of the trauma does ebb. You have a right to be angry so get it out of your system, but wise people turn that anger into a productive way of either saving the marriage by seeking marriage counseling and trying to overcome this affair and again being happy together as a married couple or leaving the marriage and becoming a stronger woman for it and eventually, if the wife chooses to leave she will meet someone else in her future that will make her happy and gives her the respect she deserves. If the husband has only cheated once then 'to err is human' although it doesn't make it right and it is worth saving the marriage, but if the husband has one affair after the other it is best to move on because he has not learned his lesson or is too selfish to care whether these affairs hurt you and the rest of the family.
Who is responsible on stopping the harassment the wife is receiving by the mistress the other woman or the married man who had the affair?
Women by nature are jealous of the other woman so they have a tendency to blame the mistress in the affair and even when the mistress harasses the wife, but it is the husband in this case that should stop the harassment because he started it all. Get tough with the husband and ignore the mistress; the ball is in his court.
What can you do if you are in a Dentention Center and an ex coworker had an affair with my husband and betrayed our friendship?
There isn't much you can do while in a Dentention Center. Why blame your coworker when your husband has a mouth and could have said 'no!' It's best to move forward in your life and leave both of them behind. Start a new life.
