If a married man has an affair does this mean he doesn't love his wife or does he love the other girl?

Answer 1

He does not understand love to begin with. By cheating on his wife and having an affair, he is simply showing that he loves himself more than he loves other. He is chasing the dream of self fulfillment and the "New Age" religious thought process of making ourselves happy and putting ourselves first and foremost! Love is not self-serving and all affairs are self-serving! Most people are misinterpreting the definition of love, they want to be glorified and not loved.

AnswerHe may love them both, but the important question may be more like which one is he being honest with? Cheating is an issue of loss of trust. If he still loves you and the two of you can work it out, then maybe you can forgive him. You really need to talk to him to find out. A word of caution, if he is abusive, it may be very dangerous for you to confront him about his cheating. Ask him how he really feels and ask him if he still loves you. How that conversation plays out will be a big part of this. It also depends if the affair was with only one woman for a very long time or just once, or a few weeks. Was it a serious relationship? You should never let a relationship get stale. Although if he says he's in love with the other woman you might have to really talk that out with him. ANSWERA married man that has an affair is usually doing so out of his own selfishness and personal needs. He will tell you anything you want hear to keep you interested and will string you along until he is done with you or there is an option of being caught. In most cases he has no intentions of leaving his wife for you although he may develop some feelings for you he will not choose you over his wife/family in the end. An affair never ends on a good note - it is best to end one as soon as possible and move on. AnswerI agree with the above poster (but this goes for women that cheat on their husbands as well.)

Some men can't just have one woman in their life so they cheat. Some men may well love their wife, but, instead of communication to her if he's unhappy he may have an affair (it isn't always love) with another woman but to fill his (mainly) sexual needs.

Some men in the 40 year old bracket can have what they call 'Andropause' (similar to women's menopause) and feel they have a need to prove they are attractive to the opposite sex and also to do some of the things they missed out on in life. Although this is still not an excuse for cheating this is a dangerous time in some men's lives.

It is true that the statistics prove that if a man should cheat, get caught or leave the relationship doesn't mean he'll run to his mistress and you can bet he will probably not marry her. He has found his freedom to do as he wishes, while other men that leave their wives soon regret it. Just read some of the posts under 'Relationships ... cheating' where both men and women have cheated and lost something very precious .... the respect and trust of their mate!

Most people feel if someone cheats once they will do it again and there is a ring of truth to that.

Answer 2

• You are the mistress and often men seek out other women (often younger than themselves) for the excitement and to feel young again. The man may also be bored in his marriage instead of dealing with the problems in his marriage. In some cases yes, the husband still loves his wife and uses his mistress to make himself feel important and a high percentage is all about sex. In other cases the man may not love his wife, but will stay with her for either their children's sake or, there are business ventures between them and he would have more to lose leaving her than staying with her. The mistress almost always loses out.

Answer 3

If this man loves his wife, he wouldn't have the affair. It doesn't matter what's their problem is, they will both solve it. But your question is would he stay with his wife if he still loves his wife? It depends if he still loves his wife, and he never really cared for his mistress except sex he could. But even if he still loves his wife, and he also fell in love with his mistress, he might have a hard time to choose because him and his wife build their life together for years, but with this other woman is fairly new.

But there are some married man that do fall in love with their lover, the other woman is so much different than his wife. So if he lives his wife to be with his mistress you will know that he rather choose the excitement of his new relationship.

So if this man is having an affair and the wife didn't know, his love for her is not really complete. The two of you got married in front of god, family and friends, by combining your soul to your wife's soul is the sign of till death do you apart.

Answer 4

Talk to the wife, to know how she feels.

The husband should not monopolize the situation because he doesn't love her anymore, cause she might still love him and he also probably still have feeling for his wife, a love feeling that has only weakened.

Get a mutual decision through conversation.

ANSWER:

I guess it depend if the wife is willing to move on or start a new life. From my own experience, when I discovered my husband's love affair, I learned that he fell in love with his married mistress. To me even my husband told me that he still love me, I can't move on knowing that he can love this woman within a month of his relationship. I never did anything wrong with our marriage, emotionally or physically and he betrayed me and my children. I have a different value and if I know that the man that I marry can not give me his full love, it's time for me to move on without him. And that's what I did and never regret it. Yes I don't have anymore love towards him because of what he did to me but at least it wasn't me who broke the bond of our marriage.

Life is to short and I know there's someone out there that worthy of my love.

Answer 5

Some men do. He can love his wife, but if she is not providing him with the emotional connection, then he may seek it elsewhere.

Answer 6

No, she may feel neglected and unattractive and a man comes along at a weak moment for her and makes her feel attractive and important.