If you know that your husband is cheating on you but he denies it and you have four children together what do you do for your children's sake?

Answer 1

It's time to sit and talk to your husband. Have a family member or a trusted friend take the children for 3 or 4 hours and shut the TV off, and keep the environment around you quiet. Tell him you aren't putting up with it and he has one choice ... smarten up, grow up or you're leaving with the children. If he refuses and still denies he's having an affair, then see a lawyer as soon as possible so you can get joint custody of your children and start divorce proceedings.

BEWARE! Unless you have actually caught him in the act, or a friend has seen him with another woman, then be careful you are not accusing him of something he hasn't done. Men can work long hours, shift-work and be extremely tired when they get home. He can show a lack of interest towards you and the children if he's bone tired. I realize raising 4 children is exhausting and it takes up much of your time, so perhaps you could sit down with him and simply ask him if he is unhappy in the marriage. Marriage and children are such a balancing act, and it's possibly time the two you made time for yourselves.

Women often make the excuse that they have children and can't afford a babysitter. I'm not buying that one. If you have girlfriends do a "trade-off!" You can take their children if they want to go out one night of a weekend, and they can take your children when you and your husband want to go out. Just because you have children doesn't mean you can't have some adult fun.

I think it's wiser to try first to save this marriage. Communicate with your husband. Children have a difficult time with divorce as I am sure you realize. To them each of you is just plain old "mom and dad" and nothing else matters. They don't understand what can happen between two adults.

If your husband refuses to work things out, then do as I suggested and seek out legal counsel and get joint custody of your children and protect yourself! You deserve the house and one vehicle and child support.

Good luckMarcy

Tks Marcy

Do you see what have my husband had replied!

Our problem is not my work or my business. The problem is about yourlow level of trust on me. Similarly, mainly because of this, I findthat I can't confide or trust you on a level that You would like.

Till a few days ago, I told you my business and my whereabouts. If youreally need to know any further, I don't mind sharing matters withyou. Till now You have kept taunting me with all other issues. Nowsuddenly, you have taken a new approach and showing sudden interest inmy business affairs. Very Interesting !!!

LET ME MAKE ONE THING VERY CLEAR, " THERE IS NOTHING ILLEGAL ORUNLAWFUL ABOUT MY BUSINESS ". However, I have to respect my clientsand maintain a high level of confidentiality. From my presentdealings, you get be well assured that there will be absolutely nocourt matters or illegal matters.

I am not a seven year old child for you to accompany me for mymeetings. It is almost as ridiculous as me asking to attend all yourCompany's meeting.

I do not wish to repeat and settle all matters for one or two weeksand then for you to show your true colours again. Perhaps, we shouldmeet on Thursday or Friday evening and sort out matters, once and forall. At this meeting, i will be very clear on what my directions wouldbe and I hope the same from You.

Please do come prepared with all your doubts and questions! because this will be a very importantmeeting in our lives!!=====

Marcy, my husband has written clearly that he did not trust me or by trusting me I might ruin his business, this is funny don't you think so...Marcy, I cannot divorce my husband because the society will laugh at me, this is my 2nd marriage. Maybe i shall separate from him for a while and stay with my mum with my children - what do u think?? I can't see my husband guiltness thru his face and trying to safe the marriage. Let him progress in this life or having an affair with his childhood friend it doesn't bother me.. the only thing is i can't see him going out late night and travel frequently and say that he has some urgent matters etc.. etc... I just do not want to see this... Pls help