If you really like a guy and he broke your heart before but now all of a sudden he loves you again should you trust him or does he just want something?

Answer 1

It is true that SOME people can change for the better, but with this guy, no! I would focus your eyes on the horizon and find someone more suited to you. You gave him a chance and it sounds like he really hurt you. If at least 1 - 2 years hasn't passed without you in his life then I highly doubt he has made any effort to become a better person.

Believe it or not, when you learn to listen to your heart (gut feeling) and get use to forming the word "no" you are liberated. If something doesn't feel right to you then it's usually not! We only have to listen to our inner feelings. Yes, I do believe he has run out of luck, wants you back in his life for his own selfish reasons. Don't feel bad ... feel relieved! This is how you can look at it:

"What if I had gone with this guy and he continued to hurt me? What if I married him? What if we had kids to top the whole mess off? This scenerio could have been much worse, but your inner feelings are telling you not to go back with this guy and listen to yourself! One thing in this whole world .. if you listen to yourself, are honest with yourself, you are your own best friend and you'll never let yourself down. Sometimes the decisions are hurtful, but one you must do.

Every year I do what is called, "Cleaning out the closet of life." 15 years ago I would never have believed I could ever be so strict with myself as I am a warm, caring and loving person, but as I got older I realized I had to get some control in my life. So, every year I look at the people I have just made friends with throughout that year (most are wonderful people) but there are a few that take up my energy in a selfish manner and never really return the favor or are there for me. So, I slowly detach myself from them. I don't want to hurt their feelings even though they are selfish and sometimes uncaring and just cease to call them and eventually in time they go away. Sounds cruel? Not at all. If we don't look after ourselves then who will? We don't want to clutter up our lives with users and shakers and a person wants to leave more time for loyal friends because they will have problems down the line and you want to be there for them 100%. If you let users engulf your life they exhaust you and that doesn't leave you much time for your true friends and most of all for yourself.

My advice, don't take this guy back. There are wonderful men out there and I know you will find one that considers your feelings as well as his own.

Good luck Marcy

i must be honest. The post i read before was right to the point in an honest,heartful way. Truthfully, my heart was very broken, was so ready to try again..after a long marriage and 4 kids..took five years to work on me...i worked hard on me..but what I never knew was how the world was..because life has and will always be beautiful to me. But my heart said yes..my gut said noooooo, i listened to me gut but he was way more experience than me....4 yrs. later..i am still trying to pick myself up.....he had the best of me..unconditional love..wasn't good enough..trust...you know i love this man and the joy we had together was undescribalbe...we ran, we surfed. we danced, we were like mermaids, we cooked, sex the the best..showers too..we were best friends and he didn't know it....an he will never know it....most would of given it all for the passion we shared....but shallow.and deep can not compete...the shallow thinks he is the big winner but in the end.the deep is where it is for keeps!

hows that...noooooooooooooooooo never again do i want to feel this pain again..never will i trust him again..he already proved himself.......but you know what..the beauty we shared I will never forget..and if I never love again..those memories..take it to the limit..how lucky was i to have felt what i did but how hard it is to pick myself back up..because i trusted him!