If your boyfriend is joining a fraternity at college should you be worried about the parties and him drinking with all the girls there and are frats really like they are shown on TV?

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Frat Parties have been forever and I don't blame you for being worried. It depends on the guys that are with your boyfriend. Some guys just have good, clean fun and some good laughs, while some frat parties can get out of hand just like Bachelor Parties (for the groom before the wedding.) The best you can do is trust your boyfriend. You're going to have to trust him sooner or later and if you can't then the relationship isn't worth saving. I'd be more worried about his safety. These parties can get out of hand. Let him know about your concerns (good communication skills), but NEVER accuse him of cheating. Just tell him that his frat brothers could put a lot of pressure on him and to be careful. If he hasn't been a good boy you'll hear about it sooner or later. Let your boyfriend know you care (without whining) and tell him to have a good time and watch his back. Some guys at frat parties have a weird sense of humor. Ask your boyfriend to phone you after the frat party. One of my girlfriends got married in 1990 and my husband attended the Bachelor Party. It was at a Pub with strippers (of course this is controlled by bodyguards for the strippers and nothing too much happens with the customers) but my husband and I weren't prepared for what happened to the groom-to-be. All his friends had the sense to hire a school bus and off they went to party at the pub. They left at 8 PM and us girls were having a little party of our own at my home. It didn't seem they were gone all that long (home at 10:30 PM) and in they hauled the groom-to-be dead drunk (beyond that) and plunked him in the spare bedroom. His Best man and other friend (the Usher) were going to leave until I grabbed them by the scruff of the neck and told them to look after their buddy while I rushed and got a pail and some towels. I got them to undress him and realize that this young man had alcohol poisoning! He had been so nervous he was drinking shooters and other drinks that were bought for him. My husband had tried to stop it and none of the groom's friends would stop, so my husband ended the party almost right away. I started to feed the groom-to-be warm water to make him sick and flush his system out and then, if it didn't help we were calling the ambulance. Thankfully he had the stomach of a goat and the system of an iron horse because he was fine. His future bride was none too thrilled and mad at his buddies. It was all in innocence, but things can happen when people drink too fast. I had to sort of giggle after because the very thing they went to see "the strippers" they never did get to see because the groom-to-be was too smashed to know his own name and my husband broke the party up. Tell your boyfriend to pace his drinks!!