If your husband is always yelling at you and kids how do you tell him you want to try being alone for awhile?

Answer 1

With so little known from the question, answering is difficult. Here is my gut reaction. I am assuming that 1) you have already discussed the possibility of couples or individual counseling with him. 2) everyone in the family is up-to-date with medical checkups, medications, etc. 3) you have discussed the issue with trusted friends, family, clergy persons. 4) you are not in physical danger from your husband. Address these things before going further. You are apparently near your wits' end with this, or you wouldn't be inquiring here. If it indeed has come to that point, I would say this. Go ahead and find other temporary living arrangements for yourself if it is at all possible. I realize your preference may be for him to leave for a while; keep reading. Set a date, and make it reasonable (2 to 4 weeks? I don't know). Don't tell him that you want to try being alone. Tell him "John, you have [3 weeks] to be out of here. It can be a temporary arrangement until we work this out. If you are not out in [3 weeks], then I am leaving." Then, if you tell him this, you must follow through. Maybe he'll yell. You've been there before. He may weep and beg for forgiveness. I bet you've been there before, too. If you give in to this, you have simply decided to continue to allow yourself to be abused like this by him, and you may as well accept your decision and deal with the yelling. If he is not out by the date you give him, move out and take some time to clear your head.