Is divorce the new chic

Answer 1

It appears by the divorce rate in the U.S. and Canada that divorce seems to be the fad. As they say 'marriage is not for sissies' but being more seriously minded in this 21st century it appears some individuals would rather run than try to save the marriage because it seems to be an easier solution to the problem. When individuals do this they also run away from other things in their lives that they are too immature to face.

Marriage takes work and some individuals simply don't have the staying power and find it easier to divorce than try to resolve problems in the marriage. It should be made more difficult to get a marriage certificate and couple should have to go through a program to learn what marriage really is about which would include budgeting to save for a home; when they want children and most importantly learn to communicate with each other.

A bit more:

There are many reasons couples divorce. Often, a couple doesn't realize just what marriage is all about before they get married. Many think they will always feel they same as they do while still in the newness of the relationship, so they are bitterly disappointed when they see 'warts and all' with their spouse. They think the other person changed when, in actuality, no one changed - they just became comfortable enough to be themselves, warts and all.

Sometimes it doesn't hit a person until they've been married a while that their days of variety are over, and they are now married and are expected to be faithful.

As for the couples who don't really love each other and get married only because the woman got pregnant, those are often doomed from the start, unless they are willing to make a concerted effort in making the marriage work.

Money is often the problem with many couples. They don't discuss it and plan a budget before marrying, so the one who prefers to save money will get angry at the one who likes to spend, and vice versa.

So in short, no, divorce isn't the new chic, it's just that there are so many couples who don't take the time to really get to know each other. They don't discuss and plan the important things, such as money; whether or not to have children, and how many; they forget the part of the marriage vows where they promise to be faithful; they lack good communication, and a long list of other reasons.