I don't know about abusive but you need to get rid of him. Don't let him keep leaving and coming back. He obviously has a reason or he wouldn't leave, maybe he just isn't telling you. You deserve better than that. He's probably not worried because he knows that if he leaves you'll let him come back. Next time he says that he is leaving you need to explain that if he leaves again, instead of staying to talk over what the problem is, then he is not coming back!! If you stay with this person, you are an idiot.
what are you supposeto do if your boyfriend moves far away with his family?
no
Flirt with him and make some moves.
You can lose spousal support if your boyfriend moves in with you. It is up to the courts to determine this.
give him your taste of mind
Call the police.
Hang around without being too obvious, be a friend , and if the boyfriend disappears or moves or whatever , you'll be there.
Well, you let him move in, why are you asking?
dont dump him try it out and if it doesnt work there will be other guys
it's gets hard to have alone time but a challenge like this is necesary for a relationship to work. i say just pull through and make the best of it. try talking to him and express your feeling on the subject.
A good relationship is when you love each other; communicate together about any subject that is bothering you and feel comfortable doing it. Just come right out and nicely ask your boyfriend if he still talks to his ex. You are either going to have to trust him if he says 'no' or decide to move on from him if you suspect he is still talking to his ex. Remind him that 'ex' means that relationship is over and one generally moves on.
pull out and slap him