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Is it normal behavior for the parents of a narcissist to go out of their way not to upset him and treat him like the victim?
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I've seen many parents who have either a narcissist son/daughter or one that gets into trouble all the time make excuses for their child. It's sometimes hard for a parent to ever think there is anything wrong, but, parents who are smart realize that it can't be constantly everyone elses fault for their child being in trouble or having outbursts of rage because they are abusive and narcissists are abusive! The parents could also be afraid of the narcissist and find it better to just keep out of their way then confront them or throw them out of the home. It's enabling this troubled person to get away with their tantrums or getting into one mess after the other. Standing up to a child for any reason and setting down some hard and fast rules or kicking them out is one of the worst things a parent could face. It's not as easy as it looks when it comes to parenting. Don't forget that narcissists are crafty and may not display their true self to their parents. Often "narcissist" is a wrong label to put upon some people and it could simply come down to the fact the parents of the child have indulged their child with everything throughout their lives and that just doesn't mean material things, but also letting their child get away with a wrong attitude about a lot of things in their lives. There isn't anything another person can do to control parent vs child. In all fairness to parents they have to worry about bullying at school, kids picking on their child because they don't dress up to code or are a little different. Parents worry about that their child won't fit in with their peers and also constantly worry about their child's safety. Most parents both work so they aren't around to see the mood changes in their children. Parents often see what they want to see and it's tough to admit your child could actually be the bully and is not the one that bullies are picking on. Unless a teacher or counselor tells the parents any different it would be hard to convince a parent that their child has narcissistic or bullying traits.
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Does the narcissist deliberately set out to emotionally destroy his victim or is it just a by-product of their behavior?
Depends if he is also a sadist or not.
Can anyone be a victim of a narcissist if NO why if YES then who?
Yes anyone can be a supply for them,anyone that is Not a narcissist ,and to be a victim you just need to be a human being with feelings.
How do you separate a narcissist from his willing victim?
Separating a narcissist from their willing victim can be challenging due to the manipulative tactics employed by the narcissist. It may require the victim to recognize the patterns of manipulation and seek support from a therapist or counselor to create boundaries and develop a safety plan. Encouraging the victim to prioritize self-care and surround themselves with a supportive network can also help in breaking free from the narcissist.
What is the draw that a Narcissist has on people?
It's not a draw -- its a lure. A predatory lure.-------------------------The narcissist uses five main tools. These are gifts, affection, withdrawal, threats and violence and in exactly this order. 1. Gifts: Gifts can be used in two ways. They can either be a symbol of submission or a symbol of demand. Free people generally do not give gifts because they have what they want and do not want to submit nor demand. The communication between the victim and the narcissist is based upon gifts. The narcissist gives gifts in order to make the victim depended. The victim in return accepts these gifts and returns far greater gifts in order to accept this submission. The altruist on the other hand simply helps but does not give gifts either. Sometimes these "gifts" can be flattery, good words, support and yes … "love." (faked of course) 2. Affection: The narcissist very early on claims soulmate-ship, special connection, ultimate love. Or he makes the victim believe these things without outright declaration. Everything seems incredible and unbelievable - a dream come true.Free people might show each other affection but generally feel comfortable with themselves. They might enjoy the company of someone but will stay focused on their own interests. The victim is needy (co-dependent) due to some childhood, current or past abuse(s). The narcissist is not needy in terms of affection but need for admiration within the group of chosen victims (his partner/spouse, family members, "friends", co-workers, VICTIMS) where the narcissist keeps his or her spider-web. However, the narcissist gives this affection in order to draw the victim into this spider web. This is a difficult time for the narcissist because the narcissist cannot be truly intimate with anyone. Ever. Hence, intimacy is replaced by sex. 3. Withdrawal: Once the victim's dependency is re-directed onto the narcissist, the narcissist begins to withdraw. Step by step the supposed closeness is disappearing. The victim experiences this as a great loss and the narcissist finds him or herself on a high. The narcissist thinks something like: "I on't have to give gifts, I don't have to show affection, and yet I am being admired." 4. Threats: The victim who remains needy is in shock that no affection is shown to him or her by the narcissist and starts to withdraw him- or herself. Now the narcissist starts to panic because the admiration seems to be diminishing and (s)he starts to threaten the victim. These threats are of the kind: "You are a liar. You said you loved me but now you obviously don't" or "if you loved me you'd believe me" or "you don't understand how bad I feel that you have withdrawn" or "if you loved me you would (something far outside the victim's comfort zone; usually sexually) Now, the narcissist resorts back to the first tools including gifts and sex and threatens that they will be withheld. Strangely enough, this has already happened but the narcissist will try to convince the victim that all is as it always used to be. In this sense these threats are imaginary only. 5. Violence: At one point the narcissist will fail to convince the victim any longer by means of persuasion, brainwashing and changed perception. Now the narcissist will resort to violence. This is the stage when abuse in the common sense takes place. This includes blocking out the victim, seducing the victim's friends, lying about the victim, rude or sarcastic comments to the victim, demanding abusive (things the victim would not normally do) sexual favors from the victim, bad mouthing, threatening them or their families or friends, hacking their email, hacking any websites, stalking them online, posting slander about them online and using the police with selective information provided by the narcissist. by Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl
Do narcissists become stalkers?
Besides the fact their emotionally unstable and immature, they see it as nothing really. Narcissist believe they deserve to do whatever immoral act their doing, they feel no shame nor pity for others. Certain people are targeted by the Narcissist because they are not like others, Narcissist want what they can't have, so they go after those who are not interested in them because they need that attention and validation from that specific person for some reason. That person that they target are not like anyone else "this is what the Narcissist believes", their victim is one of a kind and so they must pursue them nonstop and have their way. Most of the time they become infatuated with the victim and or share a strong love, hate personality towards their victim and they generally don't stop until someone gets hurt, but of course this is apart of their illness. They know what they do is wrong but they don't really care to acknowledge their behavior as bad, instead it's pointed at the victim.
Would a narcissist empathize with his victim?
No, they could care less what they do to you. They don't have empathy! They could care less what they do to you or how they hurt you.
Why do some Narcissists stalk and harass while others want nothing to do with you?
Narcissists are just not a group with the same rules, but are individuals. One narcissist may stalk because he's ticked off his victim got away and this has burst his/her bubble, while another Narcissist will be on the lazy side or know he/she can land another victim quickly. They either want to get even or they have tired of their victim.
Is it possible to start acting like your narcissist mate if you have spent many years with him or her?
There are two types of victims .... one type is submissive and will take whatever the narcissist dishes out while the second type of victim fights back in their own way (but, of course never wins the battle with the narcissist, but certainly will win the war if they leave.) The submissive victim has a lack of self esteem, may fear confrontation or come from a family of arguing and therefore refuses to engage in fighting with their narcissistic partner and eventually the narcissist will throw them aside and go onto another victim leaving the passive victim feeling betrayed, alone, fearful and a feeling they actually deserved what they got. They are very scarred emotionally from the narcissist and will need counseling. The victim that fights back is waging a battle with no end, and only when they stand on their own two feet and end the relationship will they have won the war. These type of victims become so embroiled in the battle that they lose who they are in the process and if they end the relationship they too are scarred emotionally and become angry, can be aggressive and have picked up many traits of the narcissist. The victim has built a wall up to protect themselves and it's an impenetrable wall and thus the victim becomes hardened and they too should seek counseling to find themselves once again.
Will the narcissist leave his new girlfriend and return to ex wife?
No, but, he will likely dump the girlfriend in time and move on to another victim. Trust me.
When a narcissist is exposed will he or she still continue attacking their victim or enragingly do something more serious?
he will do something rash that might hurt himself
How does a narcissist react to an ex's new boyfriend?
Usually they have moved on by then and found another victim who is able to feed them the constant attention they need.
How would you handle a student being bullied?
First of all, do not blame the victim. There should be zero tolerance for bullying behavior. Both sets of parents should be notified about their child. Avoid further victimizing of the child, which means that mediation and proof of bullying should not have to be provided to parents of the bully with the victim present. Both kids could use counseling, preferably on a private level, to learn about the issue. In the past, parents of a bully were confronted and the bully punished, but these days it is seen as a behavior that requires counseling and remediation.
