Is it normal for a guy to be mad at his girlfriend but still be okay with his best friend after he finds out that they were messing around behind his back?

Answer 1

I think in the long run we all tend to forgive our friends easier than our significant others. But, I don't think that what they did was respectful at all. Your guy friend should have known better, and so should your girlfriend. If you're going to forgive one of them, then forgive both of them, after all they did the same thing...now can you take something like this in the future?Or will it always be in the back of your mind poking you in the head?I personally would not trust a friend (let alone a best friend) if he/she ever did something like this to me..This shows how much respect they both have for you. Don't be surprised if they get together in the future.. Some people are more likely to forgive a friend (whom they've probably had past fights with) for what happened than someone they loved and truly trusted on a whole different level. On the other hand, some may feel angry at the ex, but even more betrayed by the friend they have know for years who they thought was there for them. Deep down, though, with both the ex and the friend, there won't be the same level or friendship or trust ever again. Hes pretending the friend is not a big deal because men compete. He does not want to show any worry of this man. He wants others to think that this man is no threat to him. So hes being this guys friend still but I guarantee he will end the friendship in a few months once this has all blown over so it wont look like he ended the friendship because of that. Hes smart. I would do the same then ditch them like a hot potato! He will never have respect for either of you again so dont waste your time trying. Learn from this and move on. If he still wants to be friends be carefull cause he may do a head trip on you to get revenge. He is hurt, Im sure. The long and short of it is cheating is cheap! One has the choice of breaking-off with the person they are going with to be free to do as they choose. Whether this 21st century youth wants to believe it or not all centuries of men (particularly women) had a code where they did not go after another man's/woman's partner if they were seeing that person on a steady basis or were married and if it did happen the woman usually got the worst of it by being cast out of society as a whole. If I'm wrong then why is it that the cheaters always lose! With friends like her you don't need enemies. With a boyfriend like that, you need to give your head a shake and kick this rat to the sewer. You'll never be able to trust them again. Trust is a most sacred thing whether any of us like to admit it or not. You did nothing wrong, but they did!