Is it possible for your husband to sleep in another room for comfort reasons and not to show affection and still love you?

Answer 1

Hi there. Yes I think this is possible in close relationships. However in some relationships this may cause tension and put a strain of the marriage. I have spoken to a few people who have been married for quite a long time, and due to health problems or sleep pattern disturbances one partner decides to sleep in a separate room. They too worry that this can affect their marriage and relationship but after talking through their fears with their partner everything is fine and their marriage is still rock solid. Some men aren't very affectionate or find it hard to show their feelings. I would try not to worry but definitely sit down and have a long talk with your husband about how your feeling and his less affectionate nature.

== == From personal experiance, as a male who has slept in a separate bed (actually, normally the sofa) from his partner:

Snoring, and very noisy breathing.

My partner sounded like a garden Vacuum cleaner (leaf blower) when asleep, at her quietest, and quite frankly I could not get a proper nights sleep.

I would always start off in the same bed, but, should the windows start to rattle, would withdraw. It would be fair that she get evicted, as it was her that was making the noise, but being a "nice guy" I left her the comfort of the bed, and sought peace & quiet elsewhere.

Or perhaps you are a "jerker". My current partner goes through a phase, about 20 mins after she falls asleep, lasting about 1 hour, when she is like a Mexican jumping bean. It's hard to fall asleep lying next to someone making random sudden movements.

Of course, it's equally possible that he has a problem that he does not wish to subject you to, and is sleeping elsewhere so as not to disturb you, but is too embarrassed to admit to.

I also suggest you ask him why, as he may care too much for you to complain about the fact that you are a "bit loud", or be embarrassed about the fact that he suffers from wind of monumental proportions while sleeping.

As a more general reply, Yes, I think it's possible to do it, and still love you.