Is it possible to change a girl's opinion of you and how can it be done?

Answer 1

It takes time, but yes, it is possible. Most of the time, the first step is to change yourself, and this will change her opinion of you. You might think that, whatever her opinion of you is, it is wrong. I'm not going to say that she is right and you are wrong, but what you should do is become the complete opposite of what she thinks. For example, say the girl thinks that you are physically violent and you can't control your anger (I'm just using this as an example). You don't agree with her. Even if you aren't violent and don't have an anger problem and you are right and shes wrong, what you have to do is become the complete opposite. Never display anger, no matter what someone is doing. It ''is'' possible to do this without being a push-over. I know because I do it. You might have to do things that seem unnatural and pointless to you, but don't dwell on this if you want to change her opinion. The more time you spend thinking about the changes that you want to your personality, the easier it will be. It helps to just lay in bed and think about how you want to change. Just don't make it look fake (like you're temporarily hiding your real personality just to satisfy her) and don't try to show off (like "Hey! Look at me! Looky looky! I've changed!"). She will notice on her own after a while. Don't rush it. Don't try to claim that her opinion of you was wrong, even if it was. Just change. Don't bug her. Don't act desperate. In fact, it would be good to just disappear for a while and don't talk to her at all (or at least don't go out of your way to be around her and talk to her), and then just gradually start talking to her again. Start out with small talk. Just have fun, talk about things that make her happy, try to make her laugh. Don't flirt too much, because this can make you look desperate if you overdo it. Don't ever ask her if her opinion of you has changed until you're 100% sure that it has. What you're trying to do isn't really to change her opinion, but to make her forget her opinion first and then give her a new opinion (make sure you do that in the right order!). As time goes by, become more serious when you're with her. Let her do the talking; girls love to talk about themselves, and she will love it if you always show an interest. Just make sure that she's happy when she's around you. It she gets mad at you, don't get overly defensive or offended. Just leave her alone for a while, let her calm down, and try to figure out exactly why she got mad, then try again and do something differently. If she is mad, it also helps to call her or IM her rather than talking to her for the first time in person. If she refuses to talk to you at all, then wait a while (anything from a few days to 6 months, depending on how mad she is) and just don't try to get her to talk to you. At the begin, don't acknowledge that anything ever happened. Act as though she's someone you just met and don't have any particular desire to talk to. Then gradually come back, and start again. The best way to come back, if she was very mad at you before, is to write her a note. And when you write the note, don't sound desperate. Maybe tell her that something reminded you of her and made you miss her (just a suggestion) and so you decided to write her and see how she was doing. Don't be too serious or too personal. The main thing is to change yourself. This takes an effort. You have to really want to do it. As far as making her reallize that you've changed, the main thing is not to try too hard. -DJ Craig