Asked in History, Politics & SocietySociety and Civilization
Social class and love?
August 13, 2012 10:03AM
Please ask your question in a COMPLETE sentence so it can be understood and answered.
I am going to guess that you are asking about love and inter-class relationships. In answer to that, I will say this; Love knows no class, religious, race or caste distinction. It is only parental, community, racial, peer group, gender group and societal expectations and taboos, along with the guilt associated with violating those expectations and taboos, that keep people from not only having relationships with others deemed "not of their kind", but from many times, even having the ability to meet others outside their group or "social class" that they may fall in love with, incurring their parents' and societal displeasure. Keeping a group of people separate from another group is many times passed down unwittingly from one generation to the next. Old wives tales and phrases, depicting a particular group as lazy, shifty, "dumb", untrustworthy, greedy, or not worthy, are passed on to children without parents even realizing what they are doing. This is a system of segregation that has probably been effective since the beginning of man and the creation of groups of those who "have" versus those who "have not" in society. Like exclusive clubs who exclude others from them, at some early point, groups of early humans who thought alike, or looked alike, or had more food or material things than other groups, rationalized why they were somehow "special" and needed to exclude people. And those rationalizations went beyond presumed material wealth. They grew to include anyone who was "different" from the norm or average. Like being left handed. Being left handed, in a predominantly right handed world, is difficult. Being right handed, I attempted to use left handed scissors and failed miserably. I teach dining skills in my business. There are a few dining utensils that were made specifically for left handed people, but they are rare. 80% of the world population is said to be right handed. Though I am unsure as to whether that statistic is accurate. Many left handed people may claim to be right handed. Why would someone do that? A variety of reasons, not the least of which is the need to please others and "fit in" to society. Example: I was working with a Middle Eastern client a few years ago. She had 2 young boys. When we were discussing Middle Eastern dining and the practice of one not eating with his or her left hand, as it was the "unclean" hand, she said this; "We were not taught that, but as children we do learn that people who are right handed are very smart, very good, trustworthy and beautiful. They get along very well with others, are artistic and are kind to everyone. People who are left handed are crafty, cunning, they are not beautiful. They are sly. Do you know what I mean? So no one really wants to be left handed." I explained that those stereotypes were passed down to children to make them use their right hands, as the left hand was used for hygienic purposes, among other things. Thus, the left hand was the "unclean" hand. The right hand was the "clean" hand. It was a system someone came up with, at some point. The dialogue passed on to children of every generation was to keep the system in place and to have everyone in that group or society, doing things uniformly. Like eating with the right hand, while doing things deemed unhygienic, with the left. It worked for that group and moved throughout other societies. One of the kindest women I ever knew was left handed. She was my grandmother. My brother is also one of the kindest and giving people I know, and is extremely philanthropic. He is left handed. We are not Middle Eastern, yet several family members did try to "correct" my brother's "left handedness" in the late 1950s and early 1960s, when we were young. One last thought... I do hope you are not of the impression that having money, equals having "class". One can have class, but no money. One can have a lot of money, and no class. Not really knowing what your question was to begin with, I hope this either enlightens you in some way, or gives you something to think about.