What do you do when your husband wants you to go back to work but you want to sit home with your three-month-old baby and you rather watch your child all day than family or paying daycare?

Answer 1

Phone around and get some quotes on what it would cost you to put your child into Daycare. Then put down approximately (within reason) what you feel you would make in your line of work (such as office work, waitressing, etc.) Add on clothing, gas for the car or how much it will cost to take the bus. Add everything up (with the exception of your wage) and this will prove to him that it's hardly worth it for most young women to go back to work when they have to put one or more of their children into Daycare. Once he sees the figures he may get the message. I respect you a great deal for wanting to stay home and raise your children. Children need either their mother or father home with them and not some babysitting service. Children want their mothers when they aren't feeling well or have a problem. They simply need love and stability to grow up healthy. It is generally the quality of time you spend with your children, but, when people work today employers can expect hours and hours of work or shift-work leaving little time for most family to get together as one. If you and your husband are struggling to make ends meet (like many people) then consider taking in computer work (I do) and you can get paid well for this. See a CGA and perhaps go under a business name (I did this) and I can write 1/3 of my house as office space, all office supplies; percentage of my phone bill; electric/gas bill, etc. You have to keep books and all receipts and then when taxes are due it's advisable to have a CGA do your taxes because the IRS or in Canada's case Revenue Canada will usually not bother you once they see a CGA has done your taxes. You could also take a course in Daycare and perhaps start one up yourself. Just have 2 - 3 other children to look after as it can bring in good money. You should seek legal counsel to have a contract drawn up to protect yourself and have parents sign this contact. There are certain things you wouldn't be responsible for and a lot you will have to be responsible for. You just don't sit home and watch your child's every move, but housework is important, good meals on the table, making your husband's lunch for him to take to work or if he is lucky enough to come home for lunch. You should learn to do books and budget the income he brings in and keep up with the bills and try to put a little money aside. It's not right for him to work and do all the rest. You need to get in there and help out! The above suggestions will keep you at home with your child and also appease your husband. If you don't want to do this, then trim down your budget and be prepared to give up a lot you may be use too because the financial stress may be too great on your husband. Sit down and communicate all of this with him. COMMUNICATION is the key word. Good luck!