Get a restraining order against him....pack up the kids and move out. If you don't want to move, when he's gone, change the locks, get the restraining order and report his abuse to the police. OR...look in your yellow pages and find a local women's shelter to help you. The department of Children and Families should be able to help also.
You are in charge of your own children! You have to set the rules and talk to the grandmother about her abusive ways with your children and if she refuses to listen to you then you need to protect your children by taking them out of that environment and telling the grandmother she can come visit on your terms and if she doesn't agree to that then she can't see her grandchildren at all. Please take into consideration (depending on the age of grandmother) if she is elderly that medications can change a person's personality or Alzheimer's or it's partner Dementia can be setting in. In this case you will have to try a different way to take the children out of this destructive environment, yet be there when the grandmother comes to visit them to protect your children against her verbal abuse. If matters get worse and the children are very young you will have to make the difficult choice of keeping the grandmother away from them.
No, it's just gross.----It isn't unless you combine it with other physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually abusive behavior.YES it is Domestic Violence
Abusive relationships are some of the most difficult ones to resolve. THis type of relationship assumes that one partner is abusive and continues to be so because there is no response to the abuse. The difference here centers on "self-assurance." The abusive partner continues his or her behavior because there is no response. I can not suggest how the abused party should respond because in most instances they feel diminished. This situation can only be resolved through extended counseling, if at all.
No...it should make them lethargic...they were abusive before the drugs.
You don't. You get away.
Because he is abusive. Partner abuse is a treatable sickness, but not always curable. Staying with an abusive partner does not help them to become a better person.
No, absolutely not.
Tell him/her a story about abusive experience then tell to him/her that you are the main subject behind that story.
Of course you're going to feel guilt or remorse. That's because you have a history with this person and a conscious. But does not mean you should let your abusive partner move back in. It is unsafe for you and for him or her. The best thing for you to do is keep your abusive partner out of the house and slowly lose contact with him or her.
If a friend were in your situation, what would you advise?
There is probably psychological abuse going on there which is based on her fear of her partner. She may also have become dependent on her partner (for example, financially or emotionally) for love in the early stages of her relationship. There is also the issue of power which her partner has over her which is why she does not leave. You dont say if they have children in which case there may be all sorts of reasons she justifies herself for staying 'because of the children'.
It depends on the partner. My would be yes. Even after I was physical abused I still was in denial and even made up excuses for the guys behavior and I was 9 months pregnant. I believe we don't want to except that the man/women we trusted would do such a thing. Nevertheless, I kickd him out that night, we need to Acknowledge that our first reaction is denial and their is no excuses for abuse emotionally or physically. Depends on the partner. Codependent victims are in a state of denial. The abuser denies that his conduct is abusive.
Why would you want to cheat on your partner? Unless he is abusive or cheating on you, if he is loyal and loving there is no point.
After your abusive partner abuses you once you need to leave. There is no staying around because it won't get any better it only gets worst after you let them abuse you once.
it is possible
It is highly unlikely that man who does not have an abusive personality will become an abuser if their partner grew up in an abusive home and refuses help. Good men know they should never hit a woman which in some cases can lead to male abuse by a woman. The stress of being around an abusive person be it verbally or physical abuse is bound to have effects on the non abusive partner, but most men will only take so much and have the opportunity of leaving the relationship.
Abusive or not, "his" belongings are his property and so in the eyes of the law they must go back to him. Anyway, if you tried to keep them, wouldn't that just make him MORE abusive?
More than likely While some relationships are independently dysfunctional, a true abusive personality tend to take the same behavior from relationship to relationship, so the odds are good the he will treat his next partner the same way he treated you.
no they well be like that fot the rest of ther life Abusive people are abusive to whomever will allow it. They are elusive and once in their realm, they start abusing...not matter who the partner is.
http://www.coping.org/relations/boundar/intro.htm The above URL might be helpful in determining healthy boundaries in a relationship so that you can recognise such boundaries, set them and maintain them should you be in what is an abusive or controlling relationship. One does not passively *trust* that a partner will not be "controlling" or "verbally abusive" whatever promises may be made and however contrite the emotionally abusive partner may be. Rather, it is our responsibility to ensure we recognise what does and does not promote our emotional wellbeing and that we take steps to set and maintain limits to ensure our own emotional safety. It is important to know ourselves and our limits and to clearly, clamly and assertively convey those limits to others and ask that they be respected. Obviously, if a partner cannot or will not recognise our limits we must take steps to protect ourselves. If we are committed to the relationship in question, then we may try avenues such as counselling to alter the destructive dyamics within a relationship. However, if a partner is unwilling to confront the problems and to make lasting changes via intervention, then we must put an end to the relationship with an abusive partner for the sake of self-preservation.
A better question to ask would be 'Why would you want to?' No one in their right mind would stay with an abusive partner on purpose, never mind help someone else do it, as you seem to be asking. If your partner is abusive to you, you need to seek help to leave, not stay. Any hospital, police station, or community service center could put you in contact with help in your area, all you need to do is ask.
To be in love with a relationship that will always last, and be connected to your partner emotionally, mentally, physically
I do believe so. I believe in the saying love a first sight.
detach emotionally and leave Or stay and agree and be his/her slave you have to choose