What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you he wants to take a break and how long will it take for him to come back?

Answer 1

Answer"Taking a break" could mean that this is a permanent breakup. Some people do not have the guts to come right out and speak the truth.

THE OPTIMISTIC POINT OF VIEW: If this was a serious relationship of a year or more, then you will have to trust their words to some degree. Give them their space and respect their wishes. Maybe they just have some personal growing to do before they can commit. Absolutely under no circumstances should you call them, contact them, cry to them, or beg them to get back together. This only makes things worse and prolongs your heartache. They will be so annoyed and only thinking negative thoughts rather than missing you. They have to realize it for themselves with no persuasion on your behalf.

Otherwise, if you do get back together with your ex, they will have the ultimate power over you. You will be relieved that you are back together. However, after some time, you will feel like they are only with you because you forced them, and they will end up resenting you for that. This will cause major problems and fights. Believe me; you do not want to feel this way. Ultimately, you will want to be with someone who truly wants to be with you, and you should not compromise that feeling for no one. The best thing to do is to be strong. Improve yourself physically, intellectually, and mentally. Even if you don't end up getting back with your ex, you will be a better person. This relationship could be a stepping-stone and a learning experience to prepare yourself for the one you are truly supposed to be with, even if that person is your ex.

Sometimes people need to experience life on their own and realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. I do believe that people get back together. However, you need to give it a sufficient amount of time. And this does not mean two weeks because within that time you are only thinking about the breakup. Sometimes it could take months. If a lot of fighting occurred, you will want to begin again on a clean slate and get rid of all the built up anger inside.

If and when they come back around, do not make it easy for them to walk back into your life. If you do not feel strong enough to do this, then you will need to keep your distance until you truly feel you are able to resist them. You need them to chase you. If they love you, they won�t give up. Re-enter with a clear mind so that you can make rational decisions. Without this levelheaded state of mind, you will find yourself back in a downward spiral all over again. Just take your time and be careful. It will be hard, but this may be the only way to save your relationship. Nonetheless, if nothing progresses after six months, let it go.

The point of my response is to give the person the benefit of doubt, do not lose hope too quickly, and remember, �Everything happens for a reason.�

Answer"Taking a break" means he wants to break up with you. It doesn't feel good to hear that, but it is the truth.

It's best for YOU to assume that the break up is permanent and that you won't ever date him again. It's hard to get on with you life if you keep hoping he'll change his mind, because often that doesn't happen. Even if he did, the problems that caused you two to break up will resurface again.

Answer 2

It means he doesn't know exactly what the hell he feels about you. : My boydfriend and I have been dating for a while. We met over the summer and it was a fairy tail being together. I went back to school 700miles away and we kept on with our relationship. I flew home to go to his friends wedding and a month later he came to visit. While he was here he seemed to be didsting himself and I didn't want to bring it up so after he left I wrote him an email and he got really upset I didn't tell him and things just started to sprial down. We didn't talk on the phone from that point on. we just texted everyday. I gave him some space of not texting him one day and the next day he was really nice and willing to talk. We rekindled a little but we were both getting upset about little things but still things were good. He said that he loved me. and then out of the blue after doing well for a few weeks he said we needed to slow down. His exact words were "I think we need to slow down alot, Im feelign trapt and I dont know what I want. and Im not used to someone wanting to knoe what I'm doing. I think I need a Break. I don;t know how long. I need to get out of my moms and go from there." and I asked him space or Break up and he said " I want to break up. I don't know how long. I find myself getting irritated at little stuff and I shouldnt. you need to worry about your education." I told him a break was a good idea and that we can breath and that it would be good and he agreed. Im confused on if we completely broke up or what. Im not going to contact him, Im giving him space, but he deleted me off myspace which I know is stupid to fuss over but he also had the status of he was relived. Does this mean I should just forget him or give him the space and wait for him to gather his thoughts and contact me?

Answer 3

A nicer term in saying "I want to break up." or... "Meet other people."

..Just accept it, meet a new person, then in the end,

..he'll come back to you sooner than later! :)

Answer 4

When he wants to take a break...sometimes can mean that they need their space.

Answer 5

he may think that you are just getting too clingy. Or, he is intrested in someone else, or maybe just confused about his feelings.

Answer 6

It means that he is breaking up with u in a nice way

Answer 7

When he says he wants a break it means he is asking you to give him some space . You should occasionally hangout with your friends. But do not take a break for too long.