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What if your husband had 3 year affair finally admits it after gets caught is angry wont call you treats you bad but says he loves you what is he trying to tell you?
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It sounds like your husband is in complete turmoil. On one hand, he is pushing you away but on the other he's trying to hold on with protestations of how much he loves you. This is going to sound strange but he's probably in as much shock about what's been going on as you are. To have an affair - and keep his sanity - he has had to compartmentalise. This is where he puts his mistress in one water tight box and your marriage in another. So in his mind, what happens in his affair does not impact on you and he's doesn't have to worry about hurting you. Now the truth is out and this juggling act looks pretty stupid plus he's finally having to face up to what he's done.
There is a second problem here. He is angry with himself for letting everybody (including himself down) but instead of facing up to these feelings, it's much easier to get angry with you.
Throw into this heady mix, he has to decide what to go next. His mistress is probably putting all sorts of pressure on him and he doesn't know which way to look. let alone what to think or feel. That's why he's giving such mixed messages.... he's a pretty mixed up guy.
So what should you do. I would not rush to make a decision. The golden window for recovering from an affair is months not weeks. So take your time, get help from friends and probably in a few weeks time, he will begin to make more sense.
Look after yourself
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Which is better to accept your husband admitting his affair to you or you discovering it?
It is much better if the husband admits to his affair because it shows he has remorse and humans make mistakes, but when a husband has the intestinal fortitude to admit he was wrong in what he did then he is ready to try and make the marriage work. A husband who has to be caught in an affair may even become angry over the fact his wife found out and he is neither remorseful and basically selfish not considering the hurt he is inflicting on his wife and family.
Husband admits to cheating?
I think that is the right move, but my question is, did you caught his affair or he came forward and tell you about it. Now the limbo will start, all the question will come out from you. You will have this betrayal and trust issue with your husband. One thing though, do not let your husband tell you " it just happen" or I'm sorry I didn't mean to do it." This are what most married men will say when they get caught. If you think about it, he is not a tiny sorry for having an affair nor it just happen, because he did planned what he did.This will be up to you, either you want to forgive him and he might do it again, or move on without him in your life. It's not hard being a divorce, I did it because the man I married had affair to...
What if your husband has a 3 year affair and is treating you horribly is he angry cause he got caught and he still wants to maintain his affair?
he is proberly angry because he got caught and hes mad that the person that found out with give him problems.Hope this helps.=)
Does your husband expect his wife to just forgive and forget that she caught him in a 3 year affair when he tells her to either get over it or get on?
Time to end the marriage and move on to someone who will be a real husband.
Can your husband have caught something from a woman he had an affair with and given it to you?
Yes, if a husband is caught having an affair with another woman he could have picked up a sexually transmitted disease and given it to the wife. People must realize that in most cases when they sleep with someone other than their mate that person could have slept with many people and picked up a sexually transmitted disease.
Why do some married men choose a single or divorced woman when they decided to have an affair?
Because it is risky enough possibly getting caught by his wife, he doesn't need to add to the risk of getting caught by "her" husband.
If your husband had a 3 year affair and you caught him and asked were there any others he says NO does that mean he loved her that is why he did it so long and only with her?
Yep. He apparently really wanted her.
What if your husband had a 3 year affair and got caught you feel like he died the pain is so intense will he do it again with her or another?
yes. hes sick and unappreciative. you can do better.
Did George Harrison have an affair with Maureen Cox?
They did have a tryst in the early 1970s, and were caught by her then-husband, Ringo Starr. He and Maureen were already on the outs; Starr and Harrison remained friends.
What could happen if I keep loving a married man when I am already married?
Most people who have a conscience would feel haunted by the fact they are cheating on their husband and the affair would suffer because of it. Also you could run the risk of being caught by your husband and some men are not willing to forgive so easily when hurt that badly. If you love your husband then it would be wise of you to end the affair immediately. If you do not love your husband then do not keep cheating, but let your husband know the truth and file for divorce and then, and only then should you be seeing this other man. When in doubt put yourself in the shoes of your husband!
Will your spouse have an affair to because you were caught?
yes i think she would
How do you say someone finally got caught?
They were finally APPREHENDED.
