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What is the better way to communicate with your spouse after his affair when he refuses to communicate with you?
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∙ 13y ago
- Tough love is the answer. Your spouse may be feeling remorseful; guilty and ashamed of themselves or, they may be frustrated and angry that their affair had been found out in the first place and still have feelings for the other woman. Communication in a marriage is the most important thing two people can learn, but it take two. You tell your spouse either they make an effort to discuss the problems in your marriage (and you must remain calm with no pointing fingers or yelling or you will only put your spouse back into their shell) or you are filing for divorce because you are not living this way of life any longer. This may be the shocker they need to hear. If matters do not improve then see a lawyer and get a separation which will give both of you a chance to be away from each other and hopefully your spouse will learn what is important in his life. It is a risk and he may want his freedom or, it could be the best thing you ever did. Hopefully he will come back and if he does then marriage counseling would be helpful. Most men do not want to take any type of counseling for fear they are blamed, but let him know the counselor is not there to point fingers at either of you, but to give you the tools to work out your problems in your marriage.
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After your spouse affair is there any help to save your marriage?
When a spouse has had an affair and broken that bond of trust it is difficult to earn back. Going to marriage counseling may help the situation and explain to the spouse that marriage counseling is not about blaming one of the spouses, but giving them tools to learn to communicate in their marriage and know how to rectify any future problems in their marriage. Many couples may have experienced one spouse having an affair and it is not uncommon for both couples to have an affair, but, they do manage to save their marriage. It is entirely up to the couple.
You were caught having an affair would your spouse have an affair to?
You should be more worried about how your hurt your spouse and not whether they would have an affair on you. Cheating is cheap and disrespectful. If one is unhappy with their spouse they should have the guts to communicate the fact and either seek marriage counseling or separate for awhile so both parties can clear their head. If they come to the conclusion they do not make each other happy then get a divorce and become free to date. It's possible your spouse now feels free to have an affair of their own simply because you have broken their heart, but most would just walk away from their cheating spouse and move on in their life. They deserve better!ANSWER:From my own personal experience what I did was use towards me so when the man I married had the affair, he told me from his own words, " what about what you did first?" So I guess i will say yes
Is your spouse cold and distant to everyone after his affair including your children?
if he had an affair, then he shouldn't still be your "spouse", in my opinion.
Is it possible to have a normal life again after a spouse has an affair?
It's possible with a serious comittment to change for the better. Conseling will help, and the cheating spouse better be prepared to have his/her behavior closely scrutinized until the faithful spouse feels secure again , no matter how long it takes.
How will you feel if your spouse compared you to his affair partner?
No woman would want to be compared to their spouse's affair partner. When a spouse does this they are getting even for having to stay with their spouse. It hurts and cuts deeply when the cheating spouse makes comments about how much better their affair partner was. Take control and let your spouse know immediately you are not going to put up with their childish behavior and if their affair partner is so great then tell him/her (no matter how hard it is for you) that you will file for divorce as you deserve better.ANSWER:It will be a pleasure to answer this question because it did happened to me personally. When I discovered my husband's affair, I had found out that his not only admired this woman but he fell in love with her. And that is why he compared me to his "friend" aka mistress. The day he compared me to her was the day that I know, no matter how much we wanted to rebuild the relationship it will not work with me anymore. I will not be the second choice after his affair..
How do you begin healing after your spouse affair?
slash the tires of the car belonging to your spouse.
Is fooling around on your spouse deviate?
Yes, it is deviate in the sense that you know better; don't care if you hurt your spouse's feelings and know it's wrong as well as not having the courage to communicate with your spouse and try to save your marriage.
What can you do if my spouse who had an affair still commincates with the other?
Nothing. It is strange that your spouse still communicates with the person she had an affair with, but aslong as it is just words and not actions, it is still acceptable.
What if your spouse refuses to get treament for mentall illness?
If your spouse refuses to get Mental health treatment you need to leave and seek a counselor yourself to deal with your emotional issue incurred from the abuse. as hard as it is and as much as we think it will kill us...it won't...but our spouse might...
Why can't we blame the spouse from their affair instead of the other woman?
You should be able to blame your spouse fully, since he/she allgedly cheated on you, whether the person they had the affair with realized it or not.
In the UK how long is the wait before a divorce can take place if the spouse refuses to sign the divorce petition?
how long is the wait before a divorce take place if the spouse refuses to sign the divorce petition
Why i Had affair got divorced?
If you had an affair, your spouse must have had a very broken heart, and can not love you again, or trust you. what you do for pleasure with someone other than your spouse causes your spouse a great deal of pain, that's why it is usually frowned upon.
