What should you do if you're seeing a 40-year-old mamma's boy and he eats with her and she caters to him and he says he loves you but won't date and curses you if you suggest going on a date?

Answer 1

I think this situation has a little more to it so I'll start this post and you can answer back with more details. There really are mamma's boys out there and the boys love to be spoiled until they hardly function at all. It could be she is afraid to be alone if she is a widow or she gets little attention from her husband and relies on her son for company, but there are men out there that really do care for their mothers if they are not well. We only have one mother and father and sometimes if either parent is ill it can take up a lot of personal time. From the sounds of what you said "he loves me, but curses when I mention dating" it sounds like you are putting pressure on him and he can't handle it. I don't blame you for wanting to go out on a date and have some time to yourselves and he is going to have to learn to spare some time for you (he can always get someone in to look after his mother if she is ill) or if she isn't, then he's going to have to have a little talk with her. It doesn't sound like this is going to happen, so from what you have said in your question thus far, I'd split-up from him and start dating other men. This may just give him that extra kick in the butt that he needs. I would appreciate if you could answer my post and give a little more information so I'm sure I'm giving you the right advice. Marcy