What should you do if your husband is emotionally distant after stopping his affair?

Answer 1

• People cheat for reasons of their own and it indicates they are not happy in their marriage, but it is no excuse for cheating. You have to start communicating with your husband in a calm manner and ask him why he is emotionally distant from you. Perhaps suggest marriage counseling to him or if he even wants to continue on in the marriage. It is a risk you will have to take, but give him two choices; either go with you to marriage counseling or try to sit down calmly together and go through your marriage problems and try to rectify them. There are four different times in a marriage that are at high risk for one or both partners to cheat: #1 When young people get married and they realize marriage isn't always a bed of roses and may get bored or question if they love their partner and may cheat. #2 Men in their 40's and up can go through Andropause (much like women's menopause, but not as intense) where they go through mood changes; feel they are missing out on life and want to reach back to be young again and see if they can still attract the opposite sex so they may cheat. #3 When a couple has raised their children and they leave home it is called 'empty nest syndrome' and suddenly the husband and wife are staring at each other like strangers and don't know what to do with each other because they usually did not take time out for themselves while raising children. #4 When a couple gets older they can often know each other so well and perhaps feel bored or trapped in a marriage or, one partner can be very ill and the other spouse cannot handle the energy it takes to look after them and they may cheat. As one ages they have to face their own mortality and realize what they want in life (or at least they may think they need something else) but often times 'the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.'