Yes!
if he had an affair, then he shouldn't still be your "spouse", in my opinion.
When a spouse has had an affair and broken that bond of trust it is difficult to earn back. Going to marriage counseling may help the situation and explain to the spouse that marriage counseling is not about blaming one of the spouses, but giving them tools to learn to communicate in their marriage and know how to rectify any future problems in their marriage. Many couples may have experienced one spouse having an affair and it is not uncommon for both couples to have an affair, but, they do manage to save their marriage. It is entirely up to the couple.
slash the tires of the car belonging to your spouse.
Nothing. It is strange that your spouse still communicates with the person she had an affair with, but aslong as it is just words and not actions, it is still acceptable.
It depends on who you are and your beliefs. If you are a spiritual person look to God. Ask him for guidance and peace and to strengthen your relationship. Another way to to just talk to your spouse and clear the air. Sit down and agree on not to argue and not to get angry with each other but figure out what caused the affair. If necessary, you can go to a Marriage Counsoler to help guide you and your spouse through this difficult time.
You should be able to blame your spouse fully, since he/she allgedly cheated on you, whether the person they had the affair with realized it or not.
If you had an affair, your spouse must have had a very broken heart, and can not love you again, or trust you. what you do for pleasure with someone other than your spouse causes your spouse a great deal of pain, that's why it is usually frowned upon.
yes i think she would
Maybe but not really. I has to do with the way you are and the way he/she asks after the affair.
Yes, often times a separation is a good thing when one spouse has had an affair. It gives each spouse a chance to stand back and reflect on how they feel and if they really love their spouse or whether to move on from the marriage. Once a spouse has cheated it is difficult to earn the trust back from the other spouse. Perhaps put a few months limit on the separation and then meet to discuss how both of you feel about each other. The quote, 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' may apply in this case. Sometimes spouses don't know how lucky they are and how much they love their spouse until they are no longer there.
You don't. You have to make an educated guess based on your knowledge of your spouse's personality.