Since this young lady is your Godchild as well as your niece , I will offer a few guidlines. First and always, don't give more than you can afford. If your family is firm and active in your Faith, perhaps a nice family Bible , so your niece can record her new familys' momentous religious occasions , starting with her wedding.Otherwise, you can check her Bridal Registry or ask her if there is anything she especially wants. I would also give a very special card expressing your special bond , and express how your Godparent/Godchild relationship has enriched your lives.If she is planning a family, tell her how much you will enjoy being a continuing part of their lives, and remind her that being her Godmother is a lifetime committment you will gladly honor whenever she needs your guidance or comfort or advice.
She may be in urgent need of money. You should forgive her and discuss with her wisely and quietly to know the reasons behind selling the wedding gift.
That is up to you. It depends on your financial means, your family traditions, or how you feel about your niece (and/or the fiance). An option would be to just send a card of congratulations or you could make a donation to a charitable institution in their names. Another option would be to wait for the inevitable wedding shower/s and the wedding itself to send your gift.
You can give your fiance his wedding gift the day before the wedding or on your wedding night as it should be private when the two of you exchange gifts.
If you have not been invited to the wedding then you should not send a gift.
Yes, if there is a wedding in a church and a reception then you should give a gift even if it is a third marriage.
If you were invited to the wedding and can't make it because of traveling plans then yes, when you get back you should send the couple a wedding gift.
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The bridesmaid can give the bride a gift on the wedding day. However, sometimes brides will have a bridal shower, and if so, then that is when the present can be given.
Your gift should be at least the cost of your dinner. So if your dinner is $25 per plate, your gift should be at least $25 per person.
I don't think you should if you weren't invited to the wedding. In polite society, gifts are NOT to be expected. If you want to send a gift it is up to you whether you get an invitation or not.
If your friends live out of town then you can ask and tell them you apologize, but with the way the mail service is you wanted to be sure if they did send a gift that you wanted to be sure to let them know you got it. If your friends live near you then 'no' you do not ask if they have sent your son a wedding gift. Sometimes people send wedding gifts on the late side. Your son and his bride should know by the wedding cards if they received a gift from your two friends or not. If your friends weren't invited to the wedding then it is up to their own discretion to give a wedding gift or not.
Yes, I do. It's called courtesy. If I was invited in the wedding and I am not attending it, that's my problem, so they don't have any fault. So why shouldn't I give the wedding gift. I'd surely give it.