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I am sure proud of you for leaving your abuser. It took guts, and it's hard. You should choose one loyal, good friend to discuss what you have been going through. I'd keep family out of it for now. You should also seek psychological counseling to learn the tools to stop repeat performances by abusive men. You may not think so right now, but you will have problems being comfortable with a man that treats you like you deserve to be treated (read this board on that subject.) Abusers do a fine job of brainwashing and have left their victims mentally and sometimes physically scarred. You are no different. You just don't pick up and move on once you have been in an abusive relationship. You will still have feelings of wondering why you put up with it for so long; why you let him do this to you; what did you do to deserve such treatment and before you know it, you'll have yourself convinced that you deserved some of the abuse you received from this man. It is called, "The Cycle of Abuse." You are not home-free yet. You need to get your self confidence back, and you need those tools from counseling to help you find a good, strong life and good, strong relationships. This man has scarred you mentally. Good luck God Bless Marcy

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Q: When you terminate a relationship with an abusive man should you talk about it with your friends and family or should you just move on with your life?
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