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Why do some abuse victims' love turn to hate after relationships end and is it possible they will love the abuser again?
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∙ 18y ago
The love turns to hate because the reality of what the abuser did sets in. Speaking as a victim of abuse, I don't think I could ever love my abuser again even if he said he's "changed" because of the reality of what he did to me, and the claims that he "changed" so many previous times during the abuse.
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Are Female actually causing themselves to be victims of abuse?
Some people are drawn to certain kinds of relationships that do not initially seem abusive but turn into abuse down the line. This is usually because of childhood issues. They do not choose to be abused, they simply choose the wrong partners. No one makes another person abuse them. The abuser always has the option of walking away -- running if necessary. People do not cause their own abuse, and attempting to blame it on the victim instead of the abuser is absolutely unacceptable.
What would you do if you were being abused?
tell someone who could help me, and get away from the abuser as quickly as possible. if no one I knew could help me I would call the police - they will protect abuse victims and refer them to appropriate resources.
What is the Percent of abusive relationships in Iowa?
It is impossible to have specific percentages of abusive relationships in Iowa because many victims will not report the abuse.
How do you stop abuse?
To stop abusers, they should be held accountable for their actions. If someone reports the abuse to the police, the person may stop their abuse.
How do you stop domestic abuse?
The person committing the domestic abuse is really the only one that can stop the abuse. The person getting abused, however, can stop the abuse from happening to them by getting away from the abuser. The number to call for a domestic abuse victims is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
How can encouraging active participation can reduce abuse?
Active participation in awareness groups can reduce abuse in two ways. It can bolster the victims self confidence so that they no longer accept abuse. It can teach techniques to control emotions of the abuser to prevent the situation.
What are the statistics on mentally abusive relationships in the US?
in the thousands and many more are not reported every year. Abuse is abuse and can come in three forms. PHYSICAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL. if you are a victim or abuser seek help immedialty.
If your an emotional abuser what causes them to leave?
the victim or the abuser? emotional abuse cuts deeper than physical abuse. it has to do with manipulation. though emotional abuse and physical abuse ususally go hand in hand.
How can a victim leave an abuser with no money?
* Most victims of abuse just want to leave with the clothes on their back and are not worried about leaving their abuser penniless. The abuser has taken everything from their victim ... their dignity; peace of mind; brain washed them into believing no other man would want them and they are useless and will never make it out in the world on their own; alienated them from their family and friends and controlled all money issues in the relationship. If there are children involved then the best you can hope for is child support and that would have to go through the courts. Victims of abuse generally want no part of their abuser and will do anything to stay completely away. The victim should seek help from Women's Abuse Centers to find a 'safe place' until they can get on their feet. These centers give moral support; programs about victims of abuse; go to court with them; help with any children the victim may have and help them find a job. If you are smart you'll head out the door and never look back and not look for revenge because the abuser always loses in the end ... they hang themselves with their own rope.
Does substance abuse intervention increase the abuser's odds of staying clean?
Yes, it does. In all cases, the substance abuse intervention is conducted to inform the abuser of the danger and guide the abuser out of whatever form of substance abuse he/she is using. This on a whole gives the abuser moral and medical support, increasing the odds of staying clean.
What happens to people whose emotional abuse at home was never acknowledged by counselors family etc?
Victims are abused twice: Once when they suffer the actual abuse And once when they are not validated, when the experience of having been abused is denied by the abuser and by society at large.
What effect does substance abuse have on relationships?
Substance abuse whether it is drugs or alcohol can divide a family by making life in that family miserable for those that have to put up with the substance abuser. Drugs come first with the abuser and they will steal, cheat and lie to get any money they can from their wife, children or relatives. Individuals that are addicted to drugs or alcohol can also commit crimes in some cases to get the money for what they want (this generally happens more with drugs than alcohol.) People on drugs do have brain cell damage eventually and they have no reasoning or no recall of what they are doing to the victim or victims of abuse. Alcoholics can be easy going in their general nature or very physically and verbally abusive if their character was of a miserable nature and it's just intensified by the alcohol. The relationship often ends in a break up or, in some cases the victims of that abuse are too afraid to take action and will put up with the abuse for years. Unfortunately, for those that decide to stay with an extremely physical abuser the end result often ends up to ending the lives of the victim or whole family (victim and children of the abuse.)
