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It is hard because you know he is not faithful.
Psychology wise:
Number one need for a person is consistency. It gives security and a sense of stableness which allows a good relationship.
The affair breaks this which demolishes the consistency between the husband and wife.
Also, affairs will demolished the self-esteem of both husband and wife.
What else can I help you with?
Why i Had affair got divorced?
If you had an affair, your spouse must have had a very broken heart, and can not love you again, or trust you. what you do for pleasure with someone other than your spouse causes your spouse a great deal of pain, that's why it is usually frowned upon.
Can you love again after an affair?
I think that it is possible to love again after an affair. I think you didn't stop loving, it's the anger and humiliation that hides the love...if you want to love again you have to forgive trully. It's not easy, takes work, but it's possible. Below there's a link to an article about how to forgive a spouse for cheating, it may be very helpful to you.
Can you love your spouse again unconditionally after his affair?
I'm not sure if a person can love someone unconditionally after his affair because first of all, you are disappointed at him. To build up trust and reliability, it could take a long time. however, if he truly apologizes and understands what he has done, and you forgive him for it, then you should at least try to love him. after all, he is your spouse.
How will you feel if your spouse compared you to his affair partner?
No woman would want to be compared to their spouse's affair partner. When a spouse does this they are getting even for having to stay with their spouse. It hurts and cuts deeply when the cheating spouse makes comments about how much better their affair partner was. Take control and let your spouse know immediately you are not going to put up with their childish behavior and if their affair partner is so great then tell him/her (no matter how hard it is for you) that you will file for divorce as you deserve better.ANSWER:It will be a pleasure to answer this question because it did happened to me personally. When I discovered my husband's affair, I had found out that his not only admired this woman but he fell in love with her. And that is why he compared me to his "friend" aka mistress. The day he compared me to her was the day that I know, no matter how much we wanted to rebuild the relationship it will not work with me anymore. I will not be the second choice after his affair..
How can you tell if the affair you are having is turning into love?
You are in a dangerous situation. If the person you are having an affair with is cheating on their spouse, you must examine the possibility of that same person cheating on you with yet another person. Those who cheat on their spouses have no clue what a solid relationship is all about, and engaging in a love relationship with someone like that is probably not a good idea at all. In addition to the above remember that this is an affair and you, them or both of you already have a spouse and in most cases this is just something on the side and someone does not want to leave their spouse especially for someone that is willing to have an affair.
Why are some wives have a hard time starting over again from the man that cheated on them?
Since love and trust are the basis of any good relationship , of course the spouse of a cheater would be having a hard time. Trust make be re-earned over time, and the burden of regaining trust is squarely on the cheater. Un til he can make the spouse feel comfortable again , things will not be the same.
How do you confront a cheating spouse?
if your spouse cheated on you then he/she is no good anyway. If they really loved you, there should be no reason at all for them to cheat. You should move on (even though it might be hard) and find someone who is going to appreciate you and not take your love for granted. Someone is out there for you who is going to treat you right. Trust me!!
Is separation after your spouse has had an affair be good for your marriage?
Yes, often times a separation is a good thing when one spouse has had an affair. It gives each spouse a chance to stand back and reflect on how they feel and if they really love their spouse or whether to move on from the marriage. Once a spouse has cheated it is difficult to earn the trust back from the other spouse. Perhaps put a few months limit on the separation and then meet to discuss how both of you feel about each other. The quote, 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' may apply in this case. Sometimes spouses don't know how lucky they are and how much they love their spouse until they are no longer there.
Why is it hard to face your friends after learning your husband had a love affair is this normal to feel ashamed?
Man or woman would find themselves in an embarrassing situation when their friends found out that their spouse was having a love affair. The spouse that is cheating has been making a fool of their spouse while the trusting spouse may have boasted how wonderful their husband or wife was and along it is quite possible that even a few friends knew the spouse was cheating. Yes it is a normal feeling, but hold your head up high because your husband is going to look like the jerk through all of this. Don't be surprised if some of your friends (couples) may not want to get caught up in choosing between you and your husband, but there will be especially female friends that will stand by you. You have nothing to be ashamed about so don't act like it.
Why is it hard to bring the love back in your marriage after your spouse cheated?
i think because some of your love for them has died. you would have never thought someone you loved would betray you and cheat on you. nd your spouse knws they have betrayed you nd even if they love you 120% of their heart, they still feel guilty. your love will be hard to get back fully to its before state..
Is it infatuation or love if a spouse don't want to stop seeing the other woman?
It could be either, and either way it's inappropriate. It stopping, apologies and atonements made, and a promise for nothing like it to ever happen again are the least things that must occur for a marriage to continue after an affair.
How do you rebuild the love and intimacy after your spouse cheated on you?
No. He or she could do it again. Unless you love them so much that you can't stand living without them. I wouldn't though.
