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Why is it that after giving your abuser a second chance everything seems ok on the outside but the 'something's not quite right' feeling hasn't gone away?
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∙ 18y ago
Deep in your heart you know that an abuser is always an abuser. Abusers usually come from an environment of abuse and it's a learned state of mind. I am sure your partner is trying their best not to be abusive, but actually the person needs psychological counselling to learn why they feel they need to abuse their partner. You are waiting for that almighty explosion! It's coming and you know it, but you just don't know when. Both of you need to go for counselling to make this work. Good luck Marcy
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How can you have a relationship with a narcissist without feeling abused?
. You couldn't (improve on last answer, or have a relationship with a Narcissist without feeling abused).You cannot have a relationship with an abuser without feeling abused.
Would a drug abuser who must take a drug to prevent feeling ill is said to have an addiction?
Yes
What drives a narcissistic abuser?
Narcissist lack empathy lack of feeling heard our feeling sorry for them who are narcissist they feed on pitty the insecurity in relationship drive conversations regarding trust imagnine living it.
Will an abuser leave you as a form of punishment?
Not likely. Generally the MO is they do everything but leave & the abused must be the one who escapes.
Is it OK to sometimes regret the decision to leave the abuser?
Regret is a feeling. If you feel regret, and you probably will sometimes, you have no real control over that. You can repress a feeling but you cannot change it. It is always ok to feel whatever you really feel, even when it would be a bad idea to act on the feeling. We often tend to idealize the past, feel nostalgic, forget the abuser's bad traits and offending conduct and remember the "good old times".
Can domestic abuse and Stockholm Syndrome collide Meaning can feeling guilty while being abused be called Stockholm Syndrome?
An abused person can identify with their abuser. The abuse itself would not be called Stockholm Syndrome. How the abused feels about the abuser would be Stockholm Syndrome.
What does it mean when you dream about your ex husband that you divorced due to abuser and the dream was i went back to him?
It means you want him back, but you have this feeling that you can't have him back. Do you get what i'm saying?
Was David Pelzer a child abuser?
No he is not a child abuser.
Does an abuser mean it when he admits to being ashamed of his behavior?
The abuser may or may not mean it. It is not possible to tell in the abstract without knowing the individuals concerned. I would add that there is often a difference between being ashamed and feeling guilty . Shame often produces a kind of self-loathing, something that is non constructive. A sense of guilt, by which I mean feeling bad about an action, can lead to remorse and the kind of counselling (or treatment) that will stop the abuse. (Obviously, what really matters is the abuser's fundamental attitude, not whether he/she uses the word shame (or ashamed) rather then guilt.
How exactly can a victim get counseling if she is still living with her abuser and is afraid that he will sabotage her healing process by using her therapy against her?
I'm a qualified counsellor. Your therapist can NOT use your private information and give it to your abuser. Everything you say to your counsellor is 100 percent private and confidential. Counselling may be of some help to you but you will not be happy and settled untilyour abuser is out of your life. If your abuser is still living with you then counselling wont make much of a difference. See your doctor and speak to him about the abuse you're suffering and your doctor will arrange something for you.
What are tips on how to face abuser from childhood?
Show that you have become stronger. Mentality is everything. Dont show that you fear him and confront him calmly. If he shows agression, kick his ass. >:)
When was Love Your Abuser created?
Love Your Abuser was created on 2007-01-30.
