Probably because she has a more than sufficient "supply" without them.
Some do. It depends on how she has the family roles set up and where she's getting her narcissistic supply from.
"Allow?" It isn't the children's responsibility to control their stepfather. Afterall, the stepfather is controlling them. They probably don't know what to do and are trying to understand what is going on.
Old Mother Riley Overseas was created in 1943.
The parents have the right to decide what is best for their children. Until the children reach the age of majority, they don't have a say.
Tericky situation, as a matter of social etiquette. Perhaps you should put the point to you friend overseas, and get her to ask her mother to offer gas money.
Yes. Narcissistic Mothers always do.
There may be fewer books specifically tailored for mothers of narcissistic daughters because the focus is typically on the individual with narcissistic traits rather than their family members. However, general books on dealing with narcissistic relationships and setting boundaries may still be helpful for mothers in such situations. It's also recommended to seek support from therapists or support groups specializing in narcissistic personality dynamics.
Generally no. Parents are jointly liable for their children - i.e., one parent's income doesn't excuse the other parent.
Stay FAR FAR away from them both!
The best way to deal with a narcissistic mother-in-law is to "kill her with kindness." This method works on most people, by the way. Be as nice and polite as you can possibly be but don't engage her more than you absolutely have to. Remain calm and don't feed into her narcissism and neediness.
There is an International Children's day. It falls in July. Now if you are just looking for an excuse to get presents, i would say dont fall in the claws of consumism ;) wait until your birthday!
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