Why should you do if your husband is not sharing his feelings with you but he needs you only in bed and he never will discuss problems and gets angry and will stop talking to you when you try?

Answer 1

This is not an uncommon problem at all and so many women do complain about this. As we know men and women are different. Most men have a tendency to keep their feelings to themselves, and what bothers us, may not bother them. Bedtime and having sex is not the time to discuss problems (even after sex.) My husband use to be the same way, but I learned a long while ago that communication is everything, and men are bright enough to communicate if they so choose as long as it's a reasonable problem and just not nagging or gossiping. I got my husband to communicate properly by letting him come home from work, have his shower and then he'd either have a wine or tea with me. I shut the TV off! I'd ask him about his day and listen and help where I could, then I started to tell him about my day and, if there were any problems we both put our heads together to figure out the best solution we could to the problem at hand. It took a few times before it worked, but, in time it worked and we use this method today. Oh no, it's not magic and we still have some communication problems as we are both busy. This just isn't a perfect world. I think your husband loves you. Instead of constantly bringing up the fact he refuses to talk to you then ask yourself what you are saying to him and what problems you want to talk to him about and make sure they are important problems. Women that constantly nag over anything (may be important that day, but not that serious and is soon forgotten) or gossip are not going to get a man's attention (I'm not accusing you of nagging.) Mix communication skills in slowly, but also, have a nice dinner for him when he comes home and one weekend go out together and just have fun. Life doesn't always have to be about problems and sometimes forgetting about them for a couple of hours is the best thing for partners in marriage (or even couples living together.) Good luck Marcy