Why would a narcissist keep going back to the same woman if he does not love her?

Answer 1

• Because she probably puts up with his bad behavior over and over again. She is probably insecure and needy and the narcissist knows he can get away with anything with her.

• Because they are just looking for a narcissistic supply, not really love. They don't even know what love is; they think love is some kind of a status symbol, or a social standing.
  

• Everyone has a reason for doing the things they do if you want to dig deep enough. Some people love to argue with each other, others love drama in their lives constantly. Some people love to mentally self mutilate. Many people don't believe they deserve anything better and there are those that are really into the "pity party" and tell their friends how terrible their lives are. We have total control over ourselves and our own actions. As twisted as it may seem he obviously loves his wife.

• Narcissists do not love anyone. They are not capable of it. One may continue to return to an ex because that person is a reliable source of narcissistic supply. So, when another source fails to come through, he can go back to his reliable old source and get recharged. It's using the person again and again. There's no love there.

• To the narcissist the intense emotions of love are scary and considered a threat. Therefore they seek to destroy that so called source of threat. A N will act like he/she loves you but always with it in the back of their mind that they will have to punish you eventually or tear the rug out from under as you now have too much power being the victim.

• Although it appears they only love themselves re their actions, they do sometimes love the person they are with, but are too full of pride and egotistical self indulgence to let them know.

• Unfortunately, there's no "proof" of anything--even whether the sun will rise tomorrow. Psychiatry, like other sciences, make statements based on the evidence apparent so far; and the evidence apparent so far is that people with NPD do not experience love in the same way that someone without NPD does. If enough evidence surfaces to contradict that finding, the finding will change.

Iwould like to comment on the answer.

The answer was well put. i did not know what a narcissist was until i read the question.
i know a narcissist, but i could not give them a word a name and this is the word.
"narcissist".

Now, i know what i am dealing with. The answer described the person to a "t".
Thank you for a great answer!