Will having a different last name than you do affect your children as they grow up?

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Yes, I do think it would be hard on the children, because their peers are inquisitive and would want to know why and this can certainly make a young child feel different. When I was married to my first husband, his mother was living with a nice man and they had a daughter together. While my husband's name was say "Smith" his step-sister's name was "Johnson." She often came home from school crying as her peers were giving her a rough time. Perhaps things have changed now, but it's a good idea to get other people's input on this factor. Marcy Children having a different surname than a parent is really not a major societal issue any longer. The high percentage of divorces, the fact many married women choose to use their maiden name, couples choosing not to enter into a traditional marriage. blended families and so forth have made it quite commonplace. I have been married for thirty-five years and have two daughters. I never changed my maiden name to my husband's surname and have no intention of ever doing so. My daughters are now grown and have professional careers and they have never experienced any problems emotionally or otherwise. One of them has chosen not to change her name to her husband's, the other prefers the opposite. So be it, versatility is what makes the world such an interesting place. Thanks Mackey. I was a little rusty on that subject. Learn something everyday! LOL Thanks Marcy You were correct of course that there will be those persons who will use the situation as an excuse to be mean, but isn't that the way with most everything in this world? The bigger worry might be how to teach a child that the opinion of those type of persons is not worth giving thought to. Hi Mackey Yes, I agree with you. After all, look what the kids have to look up too ... not too many mentors around like there use to be. We are in a world of mistrust, robotic feelings and a devil-may-care attitude without consequences (so many would like to believe). Real good solid ground for the young to hold their footing on. I'd say it's moss covered rocks! Marcy