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You just found out that your husband of 10 years had an affair and now has a 2 year old child you had been trying to have child for the last 5 years what should you do divorce or stay with him?
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∙ 14y ago
You would say the same thing as you would to any adulterer. As for the aspect of the child, apparently there was a greater biological compatibility with her than you. That's not the fault of either of you, provided he actually was having sex with you. Though not often considered, there are similar circumstances in religions that allow for multiple wives. One wife is more biologically compatible than another.
Another possibility is that your body simply is not yet ready to be pregnant. Females don't reach full biological and hormonal maturity until age 24. Males don't reach it until age 30.
There was a study, a few years ago, on the longest living women. A common factor they found was that they didn't have their first child until their 30s. This from a time before Birth Control and condoms was made from a sheep bladder. The supposition was that these women simply matured, or aged slower, thus having an overall longer lifespan. Perhaps they are an emerging new version of humans with longer lifespans.
I know that all this is likely of little help in understanding why he cheated, or gave into temptation. The Birth Rate of male children has dropped by over 25% in the last 30 years, where now there are more female births than male. As a result, there simply are less available males, especially in the middle and upper income areas. These young women are targeting men, married or not. And, one with a the appearance of a successful marriage is a real attraction.
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If your getting a divorce and you know your husband is impotent and then all of a sudden you find his levitra prescription do you think he is having an affair?
Maybe he is just trying to get the feeling back because of his alleged impotence. If you were getting a divorce in the first place why are you worry about his having an affair?
How do you find out your husband is having an affair?
follow him every where..try to offer him sex..if he does not accept it...then keep trying
What should a wife do if she catches her husband cheating on her.?
Answer If he hasn't cheated before then it's time to sit down and communicate because something is lacking in your marriage or, perhaps your husband is simply trying to recoup their youth by having an affair with a younger woman. If he hasn't cheated before this then try to work things out and if you don't think you can handle that route then separate for a few months to see what happens and if you don't think you can reconcile then file for divorce.
Who would you believe your husband or his ex mistress telling you that their affair wasn't plan?
If she is trying to get him back, or still wants him.. Then I would believe your husband. If she is absolutely done with him, then believe her. Good Luck!!
How do you choose between your husband and your affair?
You have far more to lose emotionally and in every other way if you choose the affair. You know the answwer to this or you wouldn't have asked the question.AnswerWith all due respect, if you can't decide who you love and want to be with, they would probably both be better off if you chose neither. If either one of them made you truly happy you wouldn't be asking this question. Think about it. If you felt happy and fulfilled in your marriage, you wouldn't feel the need to cheat on your husband. And if your lover provided you with everything you felt your marriage was lacking, you would be trying to decide how to tell your husband that you want a divorce instead of trying to choose between him and someone else.However, if you really need someone else to tell you what you should do...Unless he's a real ogre, it's my personal opinion that you owe it to your husband to give up this other person and try to make your marriage work...but if he's such an ogre you wouldn't feel torn between him and someone else, right?ANSWER:First of all why do you want to choose between your husband and the man your having an affair with? Did your husband did something so bad that you decided to have the affair? If you don't have the love for your husband, I think it's time for you to let him go. He doesn't need all this pain from you. You can not choose who is the best or who is more loving. You are comparing your husband towards the man you had the affair, this is not fair towards your husband. You remind me of the man I married, comparing 2 different person is a no no to me.
Could you set aside the pain your husband gave you from his affair for the sake of your young children?
Each individual woman is different when it comes to forgiving her husband for having an affair and it is a personal decision by that woman. Once that bond of trust is broken it is difficult for the wife to trust her husband and generally that mistrust turns into questioning the husband if he should be late coming home to where he is going and eventually some men will simply leave the marriage on that basis. Not only that, but the wife feels demeaned or sometimes unattractive because she can subconsciously feel she is unattractive or her husband wouldn't have found it necessary to have an affair. Of course is most cases this is not true and the husband would cheat no matter how attractive his wife is. If your husband has had more than one affair before it is more than likely he will have another one. If this is the first affair he has had then humans make mistakes and it is worth trying to resolve problems in your marriage by seeking out a good marriage counselor, but only if your husband is willing. If your husband refuses to get marriage counseling or does not want to give up the woman he has had the affair with or feels threatened by you to walk away from the affair then no, it is not wise to stay in such an unsettled and toxic marriage for the sake of the children. If you and your husband decide to dissolve the marriage then try to do it on a friendly basis for the sake of the children as children often blame themselves for their parents divorcing. Make sure you try to appear to be friends in front of the children and agree that your husband pays child support and has joint custody of his children so the children can have both parents in their lives. If you do not want to be quite so drastic as to apply for divorce you could try separating for awhile to see if you and your husband cannot work things out, but be sure the children get to see him or even stay with this father on weekends and some holidays.
Mty husband goes out every night comes home 1am sometimes later when i go for a drink with a friend he thinks im cheating and im not so i think his guilty of something so his trying to blame me?
This is probably true, your husband may be having an affair but if you want to stay with him, don't question him and act as if he's a bad person, yes having an affair is a big deal and wrong; so if you really don't love him, get a divorce but if you still have hope bet the best spouse ever to make him come back to you.
When being serviced in a divorce and you can not find the spouse does the document expire?
Yes and no. You should do everything you can to try to locate the spouse you are trying to get a divorce from. But if you cannot find him or her then you can still get a divorce. Known as a default divorce, the court will grant the divorce once you should that service was not possible. You should not wait or assume that it is not possible without the other spouse because that is simply not the case.
Who should I go to for divorce advice?
For divorce advice, it's best to seek help of a marriage counselor, attorney or your church pastor. Going through a divorce can be a very trying time, especially if there are children involved.
If a wife pushes her husband away in the relationship because she wants a divorce and he has an affair is he wrong?
Yes, no one should ever have an affair, if you have filed for divorce or are completely and knowingly separated or the other in the relationship gives you complete permission to then you may see other people!YES! Of course he is hurting and feels like he has the right to , but he doesn't. AT ALL. He needs to try and work it out and if he can't, then they should separate for a while. if that doesn't work then try a marriage counselor. if that doesn't work then you keep on trying until you can't anymore. but NEVER cheat on her that will give her every right to do the same to you and when she does , there goes your marriage.YES!! my husband has been having an affair for over 2 months now just found out yesterday and now he wants a divorce to be with her. Weve been married over 3yrs 2 beautiful kids and he wants to end our marriage for a fling. It hurts to know that not only does he want to divorce but to know hes been with somebody else while telling me how much he loved me. I never said i wanted to divorce him I just said we needed to work on things while we separated but he wouldn't even let me separate. And just a couple days later he was with his mistress. His in cali and im in Delaware and he told me he even took her to our house. WOW how am I supposed to handle that kind of news?
In the state of pennsylvannia can a husband an wife write a divorce agreement by themseleves without any lawyers?
You can draft your own separation agreement, but I would not recommend trying to create any of the actual divorce papers (bill of complaint/petition, answer, final decree)yourself.
Can a first wife claim part of the husband's pension when he is in a care home and the second wife is still alive and trying to claim?
You need to check their original divorce decree. The first wife may indeed have a right to a portion of her ex-husband's pension.
