What plant was used as a sign for swingers?

Answer 1

Pampas grass!

^^^^^^^^

I wish this were true, but if it is, it's a regional thing -- and I doubt it's true. Of course, it could have been a sign in the 70s, but since I was only 7 in 1975, so I can't speak to that.

I'm a swinger, so I have contact with swingers around the world. I go to swinger resorts and meet couples from the UK, Brazil, Canada, Italy, and all over the US. I can tell you with certainty that there is no universal sign today that says, "I'm a swinger."

The thing is, most swingers do not advertise to the public. They especially don't want to advertise their house as such. Who wants some moron showing up unannounced at their door hoping for a little side action? Trust me, no one. It would be like putting a sign on your front door that said, "My wife is easy, who wants to stalk her next?"

Besides, what would be the point? Swingers have standards, you know. We don't just sleep with whomever knocks on our door. We seek each other out at parties and online -- where we can decide if we're attracted to you before we let you know where we live.

All that said, there is a (failed, thus far) movement to create a piece of jewelry that might identify you to other swingers. Most swingers go to great lengths to keep that part of their lives from the bulk of their friends and coworkers, so the idea of wearing something that outs is a hard sell.

So far, the closest thing I've seen for a symbol is the Mars (Male) and Venus (female) symbols arraigned in fours (male, female, male, female) to represent a fourway. Given you'd have to be 10 years old to miss the meaning of this "symbol" most people wear it to swingers' parties, if anywhere. A shirt or some form of jewelry with MFMF (again, male, female, male, female) is supposedly occasionally worn by the indiscreet, but I've never actually seen anyone wear it -- but you can find such garbage at CafePress. I doubt anyone actually buys it.