Does someone who keeps going back to an abusive relationship have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?

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Absolutely not! When you are abused in a relationship the abuser is a controller and that is what they seem to do the best. They chip away at you until you lose your identity and listen to them instead of yourself. This is not your fault! The abuser makes the abused feel as if they can't make a decision on their own and that they "can't make it out in the world alone." If the abused is lucky to take the chance of leaving the abuser they feel at their wits end and they don't often know where to go to get help especially if they have children. Finding a Women's Shelter or going to your local Abused Women's Center (if you don't know where these places are go to your local Mental Health and they will direct you.) There is help out there. The Women's Centres will be sure you get a counseller, even a lawyer if need be and do up a questionnaire on you so they know the situation better. They will help you find a place to live and often help you find work. This is not charity and the abused should never consider it charity. It's women fighting back to keep themselves safe and many are there to help you out. There are other women working in these societies that have been abused and are helping to set other abused women free. Good luck Marcy I agree with Marcy. It's relationship problems, not OCD. People with OCD generally have compulsive tendencies such as: washing and re-washing your hands even though they are clean, before leaving your house you check the stove to make sure it's off-then go back multiple times to re-check it, locking your door when leaving your house, then going back to check it multiple times, tugging on your shirt sleeves over and over to make sure they are "just right" and comfortable, getting an answer to a question-then asking the same question over and over,.....you get the idea. Sometimes people with severe OCD can take two hours to leave their house and get to the supermarket. There are medications that may help, such as Anafranil, Luvox. and others. If someone shows signs of OCD they should see their Primary Care Phyician who may suggest a psychiatrist and counselling No OCE is a mental state. Returning to an abusive relationship is emotional. You may have low self esteem or they have brow beaten you into thinking your worthless or cant get anyone better than them. You may be an introvert that cannot speak their mind because of a dysfunctional upbringing. If your environment as a child was that of nonsupport or positivity then you can be projecting that into your own life. Sit down and ask what it is that this person does for you emotionally, not materially, if at the end of most days you are stressed out, sad, feel let down, feel like your not worthy, then this person is not for you. Besides, the abuser only has power as long as you give it to them. I know it is easier said then done but there is help out there for you to get away and stay away from this person. You are no different than any other person that deserves to be treated with respect and love from the people closest to you anything else is not what we were put on this earth for. Your not a door mat. Abusive people are actually weak individually because unless they have others to bully they have nothing which is sad... Look in your local papers, phonebooks and library for group help or individual help and start living the rest of this life you have.....Good Luck. and dont wait another day.....