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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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What does dreamin about a partener cheating mean?
It either means your seeing cleary now. Or it could mean that you care so much about your partner your imagining the worst so in the future you can focus on the best.
Why do men cheat with the ex girlfriend?
I'm not speaking from experience or from statistical information, but it would make sense that a man would cheat with an ex simply because that man might think he could have another chance with her, or because he misses that person. Perhaps feelings for her still remain?
Why did my ex boyfriend get back with his ex wife after being 3 years with me?
Maybe old feelings came back and he realized that he still loved her. And the connection between his EX wife and him may have been stronger.
Please resubmit your question as it is not clear what you are trying to ask. Thanks.
What questions to ask if your girlfriend is cheating?
Better yet what questions do you need to ask yourself... Do you really want to be with a woman who has no self control and is immature? Do you want to invest in a future with a person you cant trust? Is this a person you want to buy a house, a car or have children with? Or is this simply a date... a FTF? I forgave my girlfriend, who became my wife, who lied, ihad 4 children with her and then found out she never stopped cheating...7 affairs in 20 yrs. She just got better at hiding it. Do yourself a favor cut your losses now.
How can you tell if your wife is on birth control?
Hmm,Using birth control can stop her periods for months at end. Pay close attention and if she isn't ovulating on a monthly basis , then she's probably on birth control. Please refer to articles on birth control , I remember reading this sometime back.
How do you know your boyfriend cheating?
its quite obvious...like if he seems to be stammerng all the time...when things don't seem the same....anybody should be able to know if they are being cheated on, the problem is that most people get blinded by "love" and don't want to realize it
You could understand that everyone makes mistakes now and then, sometimes really big ones. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't regret it or that she doesn't care about you. Perhaps it would be worth giving her a second chance? But if you do take her back, let her know she's forgiven and refrain from throwing it in her face should you get in an argument or something.
Is it wrong having an affair with a married woman?
You've heard these expressions before: "It's a train wreck! Get outta there!" "This has disaster written all over it." Any way you cut it, affairs where one or both of the participants is/are married are prescriptions for heartache (and trouble). The feelings of others (and their futures) hang in the balance. If you dive in, you have a few days, weeks or whatever to enjoy it and a lifetime to regret it. What's the bottom line? The total cost? And who pays? The temptation of "forbidden fruit" is overpowering! Irrestible! Look into your heart and decide what is best by whatever standards you keep. If you cannot find a way to measure the pros and cons, spool up and get some. This is too important an issue to make a bad call on. What do you want? What do you want now? What do you want next year? Look carefully. Be sure and be clear when you make up your mind.
Is it okay for a fiancee to think a female co worker is okay looking?
Yes. Admitting someone is good looking and "lusting" are two different issues.
Yes, most definately. My husband and I check out woman and men all the time together. We are all only human and its in our nature to look - completely natural. Its also great that he shares it with you as he obviously has nothing to hide. If your comfortable, confident and trusting with one another there shouldn't be a problem where this is concerned.And when they say they are "okay looking" it simply means they think they are okay looking - not negative or overly positive in their eyes. I wouldn't read too much into it as it is completely harmless.
Do married men ever leave their wives for a woman they love?
Yes, it has happened often enough.
The problems are:
They might not, as they might want to avoid divorce, alimony, child support, etc.
They might not really love the other woman. Men easily separate love and sex, and many men lie.
Even if they do, they will probably leave the new woman someday not too far off. Remember, they loved their wife once too.
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Yes there are some married men that leaves their wife for another woman. Some thought the "grass is more greener on the other side." Married men who cheat and stay with their wife has a soul and a conscience and try to change. But I'm not sure if those married men that cheat and decide to stay do still love their wives. They are the only one that can justify that question.
How do i tell my husband that i know about his secret relationship with a woman?
This is something that has to be done straight out, face to face, and try and keep your cool. Either way you two are going to have to talk about things to decide what is going to go on from that point. Listen to him as well as let him know how you feel - the best thing you can do is try and deal with this as maturily and calmly as possible as yelling, fighting and carrying on will not get this dealt with and put behind you as best as you can. You will have to decide if your going to stay together or seek counselling together and try to work on things. Just say you know what hes up to and you cant carry on like that anymore an you're ready to move on! This kind of situation is never easy. There will be the likelihood that tempers will flare, which never works at getting to the heart of the problem. Still, you really do need to confront him. It will not be easy, however you should try to approach him in as non-threatening a way as possible. You will have to use open, honest, sincere, and direction communication. Try not to let your emotions distract you from what is being said. Listen, digest, think about it, and try to respond in the most appropriate way. If he gets defensive (which he probably will get), angry, or ranting, just let him go on and do not respond. Let him wear himself out. Sometimes saying nothing initially will make him think about the consequences of his actions, or other things that may shed some light on the issue. As such, you will have to be ready for whatever the answer is. You will have to find out if the relationship is strictly platonic, or more personal, and will have to deal with it. If it turns out that the relationship is personal, sexual, etc., only you can make the decision if the marriage is worth saving. If it is personal, the question also will be, "can you live with it, and will you ever be able to trust him again."
Why are women considered weaker than men?
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Let me correct that question, the reason why most women are weaker than men for the reason that when we solve problems we all use our emotion to do the right thing. I think women was born that way and it does separate us from men. But not all woman are weaker, there are some that also tough including myself. But do you know that there are also men who are weaker?
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Probably never. That being said if you love him, you can and should forgive him, but you will never ever forget that he played around and had an affair on you. You will always suspect him of having affairs, and maybe the best thing you could do for peace of mind if no children are involved is to move on in life and leave this guy to suffer in his own miseries. He cheated on you. That's a no no and there's no way he can ever un-do what he has done to your heart and beliefs in him as your husband and as a man.
That's not necessarily true. A wife can stop obsessing over her husband's affair and the other woman; it just takes a little effort, time, and an honest look at her marriage. The first thing you need to consider is if your husband is remorseful for his affair. If he truly is, his behavior, words and actions will reflect this. He will be willing to talk to you about the affair. He will give full disclosure as to how it happened and why. He will be accountable. He will have worked hard to restore your faith and trust in him by being both accountable and honest. He won't blame you, but will take full responsibility. He will be willing to do whatever it takes to strengthen the marriage and heal your hurts. He will repeatedly verbally admit that it was a terrible mistake, he regrets it, and he'll spend the rest of his life making it up to you. This is not groveling, you need to understand - this is just simply and truthfully stating facts. It will come up in everyday conversations. When you've heard it enough, you will believe it.
For example:
Wife: " I feel so bad for our friend Jane. Her husband died, and she thinks she's over it, but then she moves and finds all that stuff....I can't imagine how painful that would be." Husband: "I know. But it's not unlike what happened to you when/if we moved." Wife: "But I didn't lose a husband." Husband: "No, but you lost a dream, how we used to be. It's the same thing, you feel like a death has happened in your marriage." Wife: "That's true, your affair did feel like a death..."
The husband uses empathy to show his wife that he understands how much his affair hurt her, and in turn, she appreciates his understanding, bridging a gap between the spouses.
If he does these things, then you realize the marriage has a good chance of surviving. Once you have that in place, you can look at the issue of the other woman, with his help. It's not necessary to put her down, but you need to build yourself up. Ask your husband to help you keep in mind all the good things about yourself. Concentrate on your strengths, your victories, the good things about your life. The other woman is not a factor in your life, and obsessing about her only keep you stuck, and allows her to steal more of your life away. Don't give anyone that much power over you, much less a homewrecker.
When thoughts of the "details" enter your mind, make it habit to envision a red flashing STOP sign in your mind and mentally switch gears asap to thinking about yourself and all those good things. Some women use the rubber band trick - they snap it on their wrist whenever they think of the other woman or the affair. But what seems to be most effective is replacing the past with the present. When a memory from the past comes back to you, you have to make the effort to think about something else. Find something pleasant that makes you happy, and store it in your mental bank. Bring it out when you are feeling obsessive. It's a mental exercise, but once it becomes habit, you're all set. There's only one trick to this deal - you have to be truly willing to stop obsessing. If your interest is still there, it won't work. And, if you think about it, what does that say about a person when she just wants to continually hurt herself by thinking of these things?
If the husband is not remorseful, you should think seriously about leaving. I don't advocate divorce, but an affair is incredibly painful and it takes two loving spouses to heal from it. A wife can't do it on her own in a healthy manner. The option of leaving is there, with seeing a therapist to regain your self-confidence to be on your own.
Should you tell a married lover's wife about an affair?
Answer There are times when we want to tell others about things we know, but in telling that person we do two things. We upset any happiness that they share, and we don't know the real reasons behind his having an affair. We stick our noses where they aren't welcome so I'd butt out if I were you and let nature take it's natural course. If the other one finds out, don't let it be through you. You could loose a good friend trying to be a friend.
People that do cheat on their spouse or partner will be hard to see, they are very carefull to where they at and who their with. If and when they see their affair partner it will be inside the affair's partner home, or in the hotel. And most of the time the cheater will make sure that the house of that person is a bit far from where he or she lives.
Here are some more tips on avoiding being trapped into becoming a married man's "other woman": 1. YOU HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO HELP THE MARRIED MAN. HE HAS HIS WIFE TO DO SO! Some married men give more nuanced reasons to get involved with you than saying that their wife is horrible. In fact, many smart women would feel alerted if the man was so negative about his wife. The man can say that his ideas are misunderstood at work, that he is suffering from racism in your country, that you are his best advice. He might not hide his family and not say anything negative about them.
You will assume that, since he does not talk much about his family, his family is not playing that big of a role in his life... You might assume that he is no longer in a relationship with his wife if he projects himself as available to start a relationship with you. You might assume that, looking so honest and kind, he just cannot be a cheater. Beware! Later on, he will tell you that you assumed it all yourself while he never tried to hide that he actually had and was committed to his family. 2. THE MARRIED MAN WILL NOT HELP YOU! "I will guide you through your career!" is what many married men tell young and inexperienced women. If he really wants to guide or mentor you through your career, he can do it in the office, but not in the bar and definitely not in his bed.
Some men are even more straightforward: "I will give you sexual experience!" You do not need experience in sex! Like a child in whose eyes everything is new and exciting, you will give him joy and freshness of your discovery of sex. But you will lose that joy and freshness. You will end up feeling that your body was used and wasted. Eventually, you might have a hard time feeling the same joy and freshness with a man ready to be devoted to you. 3. HIS SINCERE EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE DO NOT MEAN COMMITMENT. "You are my SOULMATE" is a particularly dangerous expression, which many married men use. He might tell you other things, such as: "Our relationship is LIKE husband and wife", "I will prove you that my love is real", "You are the sweetest one that I have", "I will feel like a beheaded animal without you", "I will protect you throughout your life", "I am afraid that you will disappear from me". Although these expressions sound like he loves you a lot, none of them means that he is ready to commit to you. He will later say that these words were sincere and they are sincere: - He feels very good with you accepting your role as his mistress; - You are very sweet to him indeed accepting your role and not asking him for more; - He is afraid that you will realize the miserable reality of your role and abandon him, which will make him feel miserable; - You are replacing his wife at some moments but you are only "like a wife", you are not his wife; - He wants to keep in touch with you to feel that he is a good guy, who is "protecting" you. 4. YOUR ROLES AND THE CONTRACT OF UNEQUALITY SET IN THE BEGINNING DOES NOT CHANGE. You are working on your relationship, but he will not do the same. You might assume that you are working on your relationship by not asking him to divorce his wife, by taking up the work on arranging your meetings, by keeping the relationship secret and protecting him from the public, etc. You are making so much effort every day that you assume that he will realize it and appreciate it. And, since he said that he loved you, he would do his job without being reminded. You will hope that he will put you in a better open relationship. Nope.
The contract between the two of you is set in the beginning. For him, you knowingly accepted the role of a mistress. He will appreciate your kindness and happily think and even tell you: "Great! I found in you total understanding of everything I need! I can tell you everything I could not tell my wife and even not my mother!" But if you show that you are no longer happy, he will blame you for breaking the contract. He will feel that the dream understanding, which existed between the two of you and which was the basis for your relationship, is no longer there. He will then tell you that you can leave him if you are unhappy but he will not change your role. 5. DON'T THINK THAT YOU WILL NOT NEED COMMITMENT FROM HIM. You might think that you just want to spend some time with him, when he can. That you will never ask for a commitment. Beware! Jealousy is a normal part of love.
The reason why you are not jealous in the beginning is that you might first assume that his relationship with his wife is not that strong. He will indeed project it that way.
But as time goes, you will end up realizing that his relationship with his wife is much stronger than his relationship with you. Jealousy will come in and you will feel tortured. 6. IT IS TOTALLY OK TO ASK HIM QUESTIONS, FROM THE VERY BEGINNING.
The best source of information about him is himself. Ask him straightforwardly, don't be shy. You might here shocking answers... I know that you will not listen to my advice about him. There is so much advice everywhere that you should never accept to become "the other woman" but so many women still do. His explanation of your relationship from him might be a more convincing discouragement against your involvement with him. Do not hesitate to ask questions as straightforward as: - Do you have any problems with your wife? What kind of problems? - Why do you want to have a relationship with me? - Do you have a sexual relationship with your wife? - Will your wife know about your relationship with me? Will she be OK? - Will you introduce me to your children? To your parents? If so, what will you tell them I am? If it is not a good idea, why?
- Will you come to be with me if I am sick?
- Can we buy a house together? - Will you have children with me? How will they grow up? Will you be present? Note that none of these questions is a straightforward request to marry you but the answers or the absence thereof will hopefully be eye-opening enough.
7. BY ALL MEANS, AVOID SELF-HARMING ACTIONS
Good luck! In any case, most of us only learn from our own mistakes. Live what you have to live through.
But one thing you have to avoid by all means is doing harm to yourself. Avoid smoking, drinking, etc. Avoid things, which will destroy your health and make you weaker. You will need strength to get out of this relationship.
The trap is that at some moments of desperation, you might get his assurance that he will be there if you are sick and really need his help. Consciously or sub-consciously, you might become willing to fall sick so that he has to come to take care of you. Beware! He might not come. Even if he comes, he will come for a short while. Both of you will realize that you voluntarily destroyed your health. He will say that you did it to make him your slave. He will refuse to take that role. But your health problems will stay there forever.
Try to be nice about it - but - he's abusing your trust and your relationship. If you're nice about it, chances are he'll do it again. Be harsh, but not too harsh because he may be the kind of guy that spreads mean rumors after you break up. If the relationship ends because of it, it will hurt, but it will also be the right thing to do because if he doesn't like you enough to be faithful, then the relationship will only get worse until it breaks. however, if you know he wont change, break up with him and don't tell him you know he's cheating. Good luck!
